Appear successful and independent, at a minimum. Have a life that involves going out socially. Understand that equality is horseshit and women (typically) want a man who she feels is superior to her. Go out and talk to girls
That right there is one of the big problems, appearing successful and independent is harder than ever due to social media, for isolated men without connections there really aren't any affordable places to socialize, just talking to girls is an incredible hurdle if you are unable to get matches on dating sites.
Sociopaths, not psychopaths. You have to be able to respond to social cues appropriately. Then, all you have to do is outwit the woman (teasing/joking/chatting) to build a degree of rapport. Sociopathy is not a requirement beyond "I take what I want" as a guiding principle, which is just self-serving, not necessarily sociopathic. (Foidthought: "If he can't claim domain for himself, he can't do it for me either.")
Trying to take what I want just sounds like a quick way to get the police called on me and charged with sexual assault or rape. Traditional dating tactics seem like playing russian roulette. I have no leverage to make a woman do what I demand but the bitch can ruin my life with a phone call.
- Had sex a few times with someone in college and never again for the next 20 years? "Fakecel."
- Kissed a girl in high school or had a date to the school dance? "Fakecel. I've never even held hands."
- Offered sex by someone really unattractive to you? "Fakecel, you had a chance and said no."
- Asked out by someone with a history of violence. "Fakecel."
Those are all pretty valid reasons to consider somebody a fakecel tbh, those all indicate a level of social and sexual success that appears out of reach for men like myself.
Like you pointed out earlier, there's plenty of trash men out there who manage to get laid. The fact is, even a low-IQ, gently-used catalytic converter salesman is more attractive to a woman than a man who openly hates women and fantasizes about them being treated like property/livestock. A petty criminal is far less distressing than an Eliot Rodger. This is reason why incels "can't" get laid, its never the reasons they choose to blame. I've known short men, fat men, ugly men, brown men, mixed race men, etc. who have gotten married.
I can't even get far enough for women to find out how much I distain them and my distain for them is their own fault for never giving me a chance, Of course women would prefer a retarded criminal over me, women are known to select for low IQ and criminal behavior. They are disgusted by my intelligence and fear of consequences.
In reality, incels are consumed by anger and despair and have effectively given up. But to admit this, is to admit to being a loser so instead they convince themselves that they're actually victims and cope with excuses by either blaming something immutable about themselves, (short, fat, balding, etc.) blaming society/women, ("women are all whores ruined by feminism") or as you pointed out, by having standards that aren't reasonable for them. ("I won't settle for anything less than a skinny, virginal, tradwaifu with natural blonde hair and blue eyes and no tattoos or piercings!")
It's hard not to give up when giving up and not giving up produce identical results. Why go out to some shitty bar with a shitty cramped parking lot to have an overpriced meal and drink while eyeing up some middle aged housewives when I know nothing will come of it? What am I even meant to do, just walk up to a chick and tell her she's hot and I want to have sex with her?
All it takes for someone to become morbidly obese is to not want to lose weight, the fat fuck still has agency over their own bodyweight unless they are strapped to a chair and force fed.
Obesity can have lasting aesthetic damage well after the weight is lost, there can be stretchmarks and there will almost always be loose skin. Besides that plenty of incels never even let themselves get fat but still end up sexless despite their best efforts.
OK, so wow, you're saying any woman can get a man to fuck them and throw them away if she just debases herself enough to take whatever. Dating app swipes mean nothing.
Goes to show how detached the female dating experience is from reality. Those swipes that mean nothing to you are often the biggest events in a man's life, we struggle to even get women to use us as a free meal ticket.
It's silly to be rigid about a definition of -cel. Passive relying on "women get more swipes on dating apps" is pointless. If 95% of a woman's positive swipes are from addicts, sociopaths, users, would be "conquerers," etc., they're useless and meaningless.
Funny, because none of those are even that big of red flags for a desperate man most of us are willing to take whatever we can get assuming the woman isn't a complete boner killer, hell most prostitutes fall into one or more of those categories and the charge extortionate rates for sex which again proves the difference in desperation.
