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[Juan But Not Forgotten]

Found a thread of people who actually did the whole "join a club and socialize" and every single one, male and female, said their interests led them to groups of 90% their own gender and 10% being the opposite, married or homosexual.

If you wanna find someone you need to begin with finding IRL contacts since online dating is for desperate and mentally ill. Also, according to science friendship is a grind - you need to spend 50-200 hours with someone to become friends. This is why it is easy to find friends at school since you all are just locked up in the same place for 5 days a week.

 

[Celestial Peace]

You can still do that. It may be difficult but it's not a fad. It's always been hard.

Personally, "falling in love" is something I leave for immature teenagers because they don't know shit about life and how people can be dicks, including those you like. To fall in love you have to ignore one's flaws or pretend they're not that bad.

I'm way too skeptical for this because everybody has flaws. I have mine to deal with and they're enough for me, I don't want, much less need to deal with anybody else's. Sometimes, I wonder what the fuck is a relationship good for? If feeling lonely is the issue, that's your, mine and our own problem. I mean, you don't have to pay for sex which is a good thing. Never had a relationship and I ended up giving up for good because it's too bothersome and lots of bullshit.

Find something to fill in the neediness like doing chores, listening to music or playing a guitar or watch something to distract yourself. Works for me. I end up not having time to be like >mfw no gf because that didn't do shit for me besides making me feel lonely and miserable.

 

[Nameless One]

Well the point or the idea is not just sharing someone's flaws but being able to have support with it.

I like people. If you don't, that's fine. But in your dissertation you end up sounding like a jaded teenager yourself when it comes to love.

 

[⋖ cørdion ⋗]

If you wanna find someone you need to begin with finding IRL contacts since online dating is for desperate and mentally ill. Also, according to science friendship is a grind - you need to spend 50-200 hours with someone to become friends. This is why it is easy to find friends at school since you all are just locked up in the same place for 5 days a week.

Which is what tens of people did to no avail. It's a dead concept to get up and out there when nobody else does it, and those who do are already abnormal lifestyles or are lone for good reasons.

I check this adult friend site now and then and it's people of all ages and careers that got no friends. Everyone is alone, even with partner, work and two kids.

At this point men might as well strive to function alone. Buy a motorbike, die in a ditch. Be a man.

 

[Justanotherguy]

Doing well, I saw some dolphins today

 

[Juan But Not Forgotten]

Which is what tens of people did to no avail. It's a dead concept to get up and out there when nobody else does it, and those who do are already abnormal lifestyles or are lone for good reasons.

I check this adult friend site now and then and it's people of all ages and careers that got no friends. Everyone is alone, even with partner, work and two kids.

At this point men might as well strive to function alone. Buy a motorbike, die in a ditch. Be a man.

Confirmation bias - Wikipedia

en.wikipedia.org

 

[Celestial Peace]

But in your dissertation you end up sounding like a jaded teenager yourself when it comes to love.

If being a "teenager" means not expecting anything from anyone and looking more after yourself and not being arsed to listen to people who think they're really hot shit when they have nothing to contribute to others besides "Oh, look at me, I'm so special!" then so be it.

Well the point or the idea is not just sharing someone's flaws but being able to have support with it.

Why and what for?

 

[green&brown]

YEAH, I'M STILL HERE AND I'M STILL WALKING. I WALKED TO THE PARK. I WALKED TO THE BIG FUCK OFF MARKET WHERE THEY SELL BOOTLEG COPIES OF VIDYA. I WALKED BACK TO THE PARK. I WALKED TO THE SUPERMARKET AND BOUGHT 6 CUPS OF GREEK YOGURT. I WALKED TO A RESTAURANT AND GOT A SANDWICH BECAUSE I WAS TOO LAZY TO MAKE DINNER. I WALKED BACK HOME AND THOUGHT "WOAH BUDDY THAT'S A LOT OF WALKING TODAY."

16K STEPS.

 

[Celestial Peace]

At this point men might as well strive to function alone.

Men are driven by purpose. If a relationship can't offer a man something that goes beyond being an emotional crutch, it's a waste of time.

If there's no purpose to be found by seeking external validation and catering to the expectation of others because they feel entitled to your emotional energy, which some ironically think is a mature way to live, then find another purpose, even if that means living for yourself.

 

[Pomniman]

YEAH, I'M STILL HERE AND I'M STILL WALKING. I WALKED TO THE PARK. I WALKED TO THE BIG FUCK OFF MARKET WHERE THEY SELL BOOTLEG COPIES OF VIDYA. I WALKED BACK TO THE PARK. I WALKED TO THE SUPERMARKET AND BOUGHT 6 CUPS OF GREEK YOGURT. I WALKED TO A RESTAURANT AND GOT A SANDWICH BECAUSE I WAS TOO LAZY TO MAKE DINNER. I WALKED BACK HOME AND THOUGHT "WOAH BUDDY THAT'S A LOT OF WALKING TODAY."

16K STEPS.

Did you walk all the way to your coke dealer too with your caps lock on?

 

[nycifer]

I should be getting paid to assist micromanaging other people's relationships. I'm currently bouncing between two of them that involve a friend and an actual crush. Both are in relationships that have the classic tales of "who I'm with is currently not meeting the standards of our relationship and are doing shady shit around me and I wish I was with people I can actually fling with."

This is why I'm not obligated to anyone because I don't feel like settling yet. It always irked me when I hear these stories from couples who thought things was going great, then they spend oh 5 - 10 years+ and then their relationship isn't what it seemed. That's life for you and its a lesson to be learned that you should pay attention to the changes to better adapt and work on them before things start falling apart.

Thank god they both don't have kids, that always makes things more complicated.

I'm just glad also that I don't have to carry similar baggage and just fuck around with whomever I want without having to face my partner and negotiate the terms of the relationship.

 

[⋖ cørdion ⋗]

Coworker said she gained 15lb going from her previous job to this one, so she decided to fast breakfast. Eat the same, salads and the odd shitty food. Dropped 20lb in 2 months. All the while our coworkers run around looking like animated corpses on their wegovy and ozempic. It's pathetic. Like it's a weight loss that doesn't look good and isn't respectable. It's like giving in to having surgery to remove fat instead of just losing it.

Confirmation bias - Wikipedia

en.wikipedia.org

Ironically until now I've only read of the opposite: "Oh yeah man bro I found this group of people and made friends. Oh how? My lifelong friend/partner introduced me ". You know how one homeless man would call another homeless man "broke"? It's basically how that advice goes. People with no success stories in making whole new friend groups in adulthood will tell one another "Dawg, just join a club! It wor- well I haven't done it myself".

 

[Frag Tag Mini 3]

I forgot that what you type into search can change the algorithm and I did a search on "Bedazzled jean shorts" because I wanted to win an online argument by looking something up.

I am now considering killing myself. If you don't hear from me again in 24 hours, I pulled the trigger and took a trip to 12 gauge town. Pray that if I do I somehow am able to remove my search history from Google before I do it.

 

[AspieNextDoor]

I've wasted half an hour + prep time for what I thought was a regular job interview, which turned out to be an obvious pyramid scheme recruitment. And I wasn't the only one invited thinking this.
I'm mad. Linkedin cucks would literally eat shit rather than offer someone a normal job with normal payment. Fuck dewd.

0:30

EDIT: I've done some investigating and the company is widely known to be barely legal "multi-level marketing company" You can legalize literal pyramid schemes if you glaze them enough for the goyim. Its insane.

 

[Quijibo69]

Coworker said she gained 15lb going from her previous job to this one, so she decided to fast breakfast. Eat the same, salads and the odd shitty food. Dropped 20lb in 2 months.

Getting more exercise and eating less helps. I lost 40 pounds in 3 or 4 years. I quit eating a lot of sugary energy drinks the past 6 months and started walking to work the past 2 or 3 months and lost another 10 pounds. Now I lost a little too much weight and have to eat a little more to make up for it.

 

[DavidS877]

At this point men might as well strive to function alone. Buy a motorbike, die in a ditch. Be a man.

I marked you "Agree" because there was no "Obvious" sticker.

At the end of the day all you have is yourself.

And the squirrels in the yard.

And the voices in your head.

The squirrels also may all be in your head.

 

[PetiteFeet]

The bees in my brain are back. That is all.
I wasn't fit to make it in life, why am I still here.

 

[The Last Stand]

It's hot as hell again like Hedy Lammar. And the check engine light is back on.

 

[Nameless One]

The bees in my brain are back. That is all.
I wasn't fit to make it in life, why am I still here.

You have many reasons to be here.

 

[PetiteFeet]

You have many reasons to be here.

Yes. Just to suffer.

I did have an incredibly funny encounter with a kid today. He couldn't have been much older than 7. Asked me why my dogs weren't fond of kids and I told him I only have two nieces who live in the opposite end of the country, and I don't have children.

"You need a boyfriend." Yes. Yes I do, kiddo.