The last couple of months have taught me that forming social connections and falling in love naturally is pretty much a thing of the past. At least for people like "us".
Which is funny, because I'd say I've actually had better luck meeting people recently than I had for a while.
And no, contrary to what most the people on here would say, I'm inclined to say it's actually NOT because we're all booger eating spaz(zesses... Spazi?).
And it's not because people are all awful to deal with.
I've had so many wonderful interactions over the last couple of months with different types of people. It's not like how some 70s depiction of New York where people will glare at you for trying to start a conversation with them.
I just think things are different now. People can't open up anymore. Maybe they will but you really have to push. And I'm not some dude hiding in his room who's scared to touch grass. I'm extremely extroverted.
People are just weird now. Making natural human connections is a lot like getting a job anymore.
You want to make friends? Well that's easy. You make them through the friends you already have. So how do you make those friends. It's simple. Through the friends you have. And how do you make those friends? By having friends of course!
And you know... That sucks because I actually like people. Even though I've had a lot of heartache and trauma in the past, I find the overwhelming majority of them easy to get along with.
I think really the only thing you can do is focus on things you want to accomplish or things you enjoy. And that's fine and well.
But that is kind of an absurdist dystopian answer to everything.
"Oh you want romance, a family, some friends to vibe with? Well that sucks bro lol. Lmao, just get your finances right brah. Lol just take care of your body. Fuckin lol get gud bruv. You want the most fundamental thing every human craves? Just... Don't want that dawg. Just focus on yourself."
It just is a raw deal. It's not because we're just so autistic and broken we don't deserve the basics of human connection. Society just changed.
I think everybody knows they're getting a bum deal on some level. I think everyone working and hustling endlessly to support a crumbling economic system and that just being what life is supposed to be is such a nightmarish concept that I'm surprised people still do it.
I just... Know things weren't always like this.
There was a time when boys and girls just met naturally and it didn't take much effort and they weren't terrified of eachother. There was a time when you could find others into your niche hobbies and they weren't all a bunch of posturing political extremists. When you could go online and not instantly be demoralized because the Internet was pretty free and people made content as a hobby and not because they were trying to grift. There was a time where you just could make friends after having a conversation with them about their shirt. When there was more to actually do. I remember it. It wasn't that hard.
And it wasn't that long ago. I was kind of a goofball growing up but none of this shit people talk about now was much of an issue.
I'm impressed with myself for at least trying. I have put myself out there. I have actually met some cool people. I didn't just stay inside doomscrolling and bitching about women the last couple of months.
But I just think a lot of this has taken more effort than it needs to.
So I think for a while I'm just going to calm down and focus on certain things I've put on the back burner. I've got stories to write, things I want to be good at.
And despite the black pill lamenting, at least I have things that do bring me happiness. I like discovering new places, listening to music while I bike, watching films. I think I tried to be a normies for so long I forgot who I was. I'm just a nerd. I'm trying to get back to being that guy.
So that's my long way of just saying for everyone here having romantic struggles or feelings alienated from the outside world, don't be so hard on yourself. Maybe you're weird, maybe not. But it's just a different world now. That's not a good thing, but it's just the reality.
I think I have worked on myself. I think I am okay with my own company more than before. But of course I'm going to want some deeper connections with people. That's just natural. It's a bum wrap. The world wasn't taken from us, it was given away.
Don't know the answer, just some observations I've made as a dude who has indeed touched a lot of grass lately.
