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- 14 de Dic, 2022
Dealing with the sad reality that all the women I enjoy being around are twice my age. People in general, but jesus did covid fuck women up something fierce. I still meet guys my age or even younger who are into cool shit. Girls... yes kind of? But they're also insane and LARPing a lot of the time.
I know it's way more of a taboo and social suicide now to have large age gaps than in the past, even if the other party is well into the adulthood. It sucks because I think 90% of my negative thoughts about women have only really come from interacting with the ones who grew up in a post social media age. I think it's purely a generational thing.
People can call me a degenerate or hag-maxxer but it's not a fetish, I just really think older women are more fun to be around and talk with. Even platonically. I met an old lady at a thrift shop recently and we talked for about an hour about classic foreign cinema and places in the world she's visited. I could not and have not had a discussion like that with any woman under 40, especially the ones who make it their goal in life to convince everyone they really are interested in niche things.
There's a general pattern of misandry, agreeableness, drama and lack of grace for millennial women that kind of just sours me on wanting to date them anymore. I had a great time with the chinese girl recently and I'm not disrespecting her... but she was just very normal and there was a lot of my interests I couldn't realistically talk to her about, not because they're weird, but because she would have no idea what the fuck I was talking about.
I can still make friends with older women and that's fine. But at some point I'd like some actual romantic company. I know the states are more weird on that than most places.
And no, I'm not talking about some tomboy gf who can talk to me about Gundam all day. I'm completely fine with a traditional woman. I just mean a straight forward woman who can keep up a conversation and won't get the ick at random or treat my presence as an inconvenience. Someone who actually has opinions that are theirs', can actually be funny or has some interest in doing something with their life.
Is it so much to talk to a girl who knows about a couple bands, films or books that isn't a histrionic e-girl in clown makeup with cluster b tendencies? Doesn't even have to be my interests. Just a woman with interests in general? I know they used to exist once upon a time long ago. I'm not insane noticing this shit.
"Oh, they just aged out of all that stuff." No. It really seems like a new phenomenon. It's not a bias, it's just pattern recognition. I've never had a problem at all talking about any topic possible with and being on good terms with Boomer/Gen X women. The women in my age bracket or even slightly older, it is a wasteland out here.
People can say I'm just a bitter moid but it's the truth. It's not about hitting the gym or having a better jaw line or knowing how to socialize better or any of that shit. It's really stark realizing you could have had pretty much a normal, productive social life with the opposite sex if you were born 30 years ago.
It's a completely different world now. I really don't think anyone who didn't have to grow up and make their formative years in this shit knows just how actually fucked everything is.
I know it's way more of a taboo and social suicide now to have large age gaps than in the past, even if the other party is well into the adulthood. It sucks because I think 90% of my negative thoughts about women have only really come from interacting with the ones who grew up in a post social media age. I think it's purely a generational thing.
People can call me a degenerate or hag-maxxer but it's not a fetish, I just really think older women are more fun to be around and talk with. Even platonically. I met an old lady at a thrift shop recently and we talked for about an hour about classic foreign cinema and places in the world she's visited. I could not and have not had a discussion like that with any woman under 40, especially the ones who make it their goal in life to convince everyone they really are interested in niche things.
There's a general pattern of misandry, agreeableness, drama and lack of grace for millennial women that kind of just sours me on wanting to date them anymore. I had a great time with the chinese girl recently and I'm not disrespecting her... but she was just very normal and there was a lot of my interests I couldn't realistically talk to her about, not because they're weird, but because she would have no idea what the fuck I was talking about.
I can still make friends with older women and that's fine. But at some point I'd like some actual romantic company. I know the states are more weird on that than most places.
And no, I'm not talking about some tomboy gf who can talk to me about Gundam all day. I'm completely fine with a traditional woman. I just mean a straight forward woman who can keep up a conversation and won't get the ick at random or treat my presence as an inconvenience. Someone who actually has opinions that are theirs', can actually be funny or has some interest in doing something with their life.
Is it so much to talk to a girl who knows about a couple bands, films or books that isn't a histrionic e-girl in clown makeup with cluster b tendencies? Doesn't even have to be my interests. Just a woman with interests in general? I know they used to exist once upon a time long ago. I'm not insane noticing this shit.
"Oh, they just aged out of all that stuff." No. It really seems like a new phenomenon. It's not a bias, it's just pattern recognition. I've never had a problem at all talking about any topic possible with and being on good terms with Boomer/Gen X women. The women in my age bracket or even slightly older, it is a wasteland out here.
People can say I'm just a bitter moid but it's the truth. It's not about hitting the gym or having a better jaw line or knowing how to socialize better or any of that shit. It's really stark realizing you could have had pretty much a normal, productive social life with the opposite sex if you were born 30 years ago.
It's a completely different world now. I really don't think anyone who didn't have to grow up and make their formative years in this shit knows just how actually fucked everything is.
I notice anytime I meet people from outside my hometown or go a new place, they're generally kind, amiable people that are really quick to want to stay in touch and meet again. But there's such a culture of passive aggressive bitterness and self-inflicted isolation in my town that's gotten worse with time. It seems so impossible to meet people or have genuine interactions when most are just trying to take out their misery on you if you're not as much of a cunt as them.
"If everyone is an asshole to you, you're the asshole." Nope. Not hearing it.
"B-but you won't solve all your problems by going somewhere new!" No, just most of them.
I've heard it all before.
The only thing that was keeping me in my town was my friend. Now that that ship has sailed and gone, I'm no longer shackled.
Reminds me of one of my favorite movies, An Elephant Sitting Still. Four strangers living lives of quiet desolation in the most depressing Chinese city debate whether they should go a couple towns over to see this elephant that is rumored to constantly just be sitting in place. They debate if going to see some folk tale elephant will really change anything and if they should just accept whatever life tosses them in a bleak existence. Well, they still decide fuck it and go see that motherfucking elephant, because why not. One of the most beautiful endings to a film ever.
In life we kind of get like that. We put off the future because we can't see it making any real difference... or even worse we know it might deep down and the idea of actually being in a good place is so foreign and alien to people it's the most terrifying idea of all, we say how dumb it is to believe in things we used to as kids. We debate ourselves out of any decision even when we know we're unhappy and stuck. We just tell ourselves we're happy, or that things have to be this way. And sometimes that can be the case if you have family and commitments, but there's so much freedom we don't even give ourselves. We don't go for new things, we don't really actualize the dreams. It's the worst place to be.
If I end up moving to some new place and I'm still unhappy, I'll at least finally have my answer. But why not just find that out? I'm just happy to know I can actually do something.
You guys can, too. Whatever you're going through, no matter how much time you wasted, you can have a new life. You can live how you want to live. You can be who you want to be. You can be around good company, you can become good at a good amount of things. You can do so much more than you're giving yourself credit for. I know finances, personal history and our connections can sometimes limit those things a bit... but not nearly as much as most people say.
"If everyone is an asshole to you, you're the asshole." Nope. Not hearing it.
"B-but you won't solve all your problems by going somewhere new!" No, just most of them.
I've heard it all before.
The only thing that was keeping me in my town was my friend. Now that that ship has sailed and gone, I'm no longer shackled.
Reminds me of one of my favorite movies, An Elephant Sitting Still. Four strangers living lives of quiet desolation in the most depressing Chinese city debate whether they should go a couple towns over to see this elephant that is rumored to constantly just be sitting in place. They debate if going to see some folk tale elephant will really change anything and if they should just accept whatever life tosses them in a bleak existence. Well, they still decide fuck it and go see that motherfucking elephant, because why not. One of the most beautiful endings to a film ever.
In life we kind of get like that. We put off the future because we can't see it making any real difference... or even worse we know it might deep down and the idea of actually being in a good place is so foreign and alien to people it's the most terrifying idea of all, we say how dumb it is to believe in things we used to as kids. We debate ourselves out of any decision even when we know we're unhappy and stuck. We just tell ourselves we're happy, or that things have to be this way. And sometimes that can be the case if you have family and commitments, but there's so much freedom we don't even give ourselves. We don't go for new things, we don't really actualize the dreams. It's the worst place to be.
If I end up moving to some new place and I'm still unhappy, I'll at least finally have my answer. But why not just find that out? I'm just happy to know I can actually do something.
You guys can, too. Whatever you're going through, no matter how much time you wasted, you can have a new life. You can live how you want to live. You can be who you want to be. You can be around good company, you can become good at a good amount of things. You can do so much more than you're giving yourself credit for. I know finances, personal history and our connections can sometimes limit those things a bit... but not nearly as much as most people say.
