Debate user The_Cowcel about incels.

[Duke Nukem]

Let me guess, @The_Cowcel has taken advice from the well-meaning fine folks in this thread and is taking steps to improve his life.

 

[General Patton]

I've not had many fun social interactions throughout the course of my life and exceedingly few in recent times. Even when I had a friend of my sister who who visited and was meant to try and help me get out I ended up lashing out at/in front of multiple times because of my jealousy and hopelessness and the one time we went out and did something it didn't lead to me meeting anyone new that I hadn't made an ass of myself in front of. My social skills have only gotten worse through the years as more people have cut me out of their lives and my desperation has grown. I was a fairly normal kid and somewhat functional as a teen but I'm just a mess right now and my desperation has made me so unlikable I can't even manage male friendships with anyone who isn't also a loser

Complaining like a little bitch has certainly helped you.

 

[HG Wells]

You overthink too much to the point it paralyzes you in nearly every aspect of your life.

You overthink at driving which causes you to have accidents. You overthink writing these posts. You overthink when you attempt to interact with others which makes it so you’re not actually involved with the interaction itself.

Instead you’re so focused on not embarrassing yourself it stops you from actually engaging with the person you’re interacting with.

You’re clearly full of shame and have high inhibition.

I feel for you because you’re clearly in a lot of pain.

But the only way get out of this death spiral you’re in is by breaking the overthinking cycle.

That’s why I recommended improv or anything else that forces you out of your shell. Anything that you can’t overthink your response because your response needs to be instantaneous.

You didn’t want to do it because it is embarrassing and you’d be uncomfortable.

That’s the point though. To step outside your comfort zone.

 

[General Patton]

Also get a therapist.