Because I have no strong desires on what to do so I just outsource my decision making to family.
But the way you spoke about it before suggested you're sort of stuck in that situation, that others impose it on you. This statement shows it's a decision you are choosing to make. So that means it is within your control to change - and if you don't, there's one person responsible. ...and don't take that as "you're doomed"; it means you have power.
Decide to have strong desires and interests. Not to pretend so other people think you do. But to force yourself into feeling something and finding some fire - for yourself.
I try to be more vocal about how I'm feeling but I don't a point of reference for what normal is and often whenever I bring up my dissatisfaction with life it's just treated as a failing on my part for not making a genuine effort to go out and enjoy myself.
I meant to your psychiatrist. And forget what is/ is not "normal." Just be honest with them. Normal may be a way off, but just bc you don't understand it now doesn't mean you can't ever learn/ get there.
I'd rather browse on my phone than just sit around listening to a conversation that doesn't involve me.
I get that, and we all have times we don't care to engage or try to be social. But in the times when you're doing that, it doesn't "count" as making an effort or trying the "useless" advice.
as other people here have pointed out any woman I get is likely to be an abusive bitch who makes my life a living hell because I'm too desperate to leave.
Lord. Everything people toss out is not a literal reality 100% of the time. People were saying that, generally, being desperate isn't a good starting angle.
Question for you: what does "getting a woman" look like? How does it happen, what does the interaction look like? What happens on day 3, 30, 300 (if days 30 or 300 are in your idea)?
The closest I've got has been some dry message chains that never span more than a dozen posts.
Can you give an overview/ summary of how the convos went?
Who?
accuse me of being abusive
In what way?
despite having been single my whole life just because I don't want my hypothetical woman to be influenced against me
What does this mean?
I think you're putting the cart before the horse here.
at my school everyone arrives when class starts, leave to get something to eat during break, come back when break ends then go straight home when class is over. I don't think I could put a name to the face of more than two or three of my classmates.
With whom do you go get something to eat? How often to you make a side comment to a classmate, either in class or on a break/ when class ends?
Is there no student center or other places on or around campus that people go now and then?
And infidelity comes from financial independence. Dependency keeps relationships together, people today are sick and treat any form of stabilizing factors in a relationship as signs of abuse.
Retarded take, sorry. But let me walk that quick response back: what "stabilizing factors" in a relationship are seen as signs of abuse, and how often have you seen this happen up-close and personally?
