Me, the most DongDong-postive person here, 70 pages in and he seemingly didn't mention me directly even once.
I'll echo what a handful of other people here said: I hope DD&J can find a spot where they'll be happy and can get fulfillment from their projects at long last. It's easy to believe that Chris isn't perfect to work with, but the two of them have been so beaten down by life that they're quick to snap at people who reach out and expect the worst, and that's hard to hear. I truly mean that not in a
'Oh, their funny videos from 10 years ago made me smile and that imprinted on me' kind of way - it actually aches to hear whenever people get like this.
You have an eating-disorder-stricken, raised-Catholic, probably beaten and sent to conversion camp for being gay Julian from impoverished North Mexico, who had to grow up fast and support his mom financially - meeting a rape-trauma, paternity-trap child who was treated as a nuisance by his mother and a reject by rich Chicago children who acted like bastards. It's nice that they found solace in each other being dealt with such shit hands for life, but simultaneously they might affirm each other's pessimistic world view.
You WANT to hear a success story come from this. Not a huge one, just a pleasant one that people can thrive against all odds is all it has to be. However they accomplish it, it's definitely something both of them have to do at once.
IDK what note to end on if DD&J ever skim through my post history here. I guess lock-TF in however you have to do it, talk out what you can with friends and family, find an outdoor hobby to do on a random day of the week (make a not-internet friend within that hobby too), and if you're suspicious of giving another chance to someone - voice your concerns ahead of time. Plenty of people want to see the glow-up arc happen, and it's okay to make some compromises to make it happen.