📚 Megathread Trannies posting their L's Online - Heckin valid people posting their funny misfortunes on the internet

Not lowering unreasonably high standards is an age-old trap for both sexes.
Women and girls gush about male actors and celebrities the same way males slobber over female actors and celebrities. Both genders may want such celebrities, completely out of their league, but they both know it would never actually happen. The woman who ogled Brad Pitt later falls in love with and marries an ordinary man, and the man who ogled Megan Fox later falls in love with and marries an ordinary woman.

Any female who demands a 7-figures provider Chad to marry her is delusional, but these "unreasonable female standards" are typically "Be a functional person, don't be a sadistic woman-beater".

Meanwhile, women and girls not prostituting themselves for lonely males is somehow the blame for all of the world's problems.
I don't see why "Masculism" or whatever has to be for both sides when Feminism is unapologetically one side. Meritocracy can be for merit, and men can be for men.
Nobody said that. The point is that BASED TRADS AND CONSERVATIVES claim to wish to restore meritocracy, but they only wish that for males. They do not want females to have careers, or have a role in the public sphere at all.
Diversity hires are a thing. The blowback is decades deserved.
The point was that un-meritocratic practices such as diversity hires were retarded and detrimental, so demanding women handicap themselves similarly, just because some males couldn't hack it socially or in the job market, is also un-meritocratic.

Somehow, "be decent enough to get a wife" is exempt from the concept of "meritocracy", and they cry about "unreasonable female standards" whenever they are rejected.
When men do poorly, society does poorly. When society does poorly, women do poorly. When the economy does poorly, the plutocrats mass-import browns. And then women do poorly.
Women and girls not letting lonely males fuck them is not the root cause of all the world's issues.

Corporations never cared about society, they only care about money. American labor movements in the 1960s and 1970s opposed mass immigration because they knew it was used to replace American workers with cheap laborers. But companies with money are able to perform psyops, and turn the immigration crisis into some heartstrings-pulling humanitarian tragedy.

Economical problems are not the fault of either gender, and women and girls letting lonely males fuck them isn't going to convince Google to stop importing billions of browns, nor Blackrock to stop buying up houses that could be homes and turning them into rental property.

These economical problems could be solved by political leaders who care about the American people, but they are all bought out by rich pedophiles.
 
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Amnesty International, a formerly respectable human rights organization that has fallen to institutional capture by the angry-men-in-spinny-skirts, recently published a list of groups that they declared "anti-rights". Most of these groups were, according to Amnesty, "informal gender critical".
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They're trying to smear women's rights and gay rights organizations as hate groups.
One of the groups was Beira's Place, a privately funded female-only rape crisis center founded by J.K. Rowling. This became a big L for Amnesty after they realized that Rowling actually does have enough money to bury them in a libel lawsuit, so they took the listing down.

One of the listed groups is Trans Widow Voices. They say that actions are louder than words, or that a picture is worth a thousand words. Those three words combined with that one action and picture are all one needs to know just how much Amnesty hates women that are actually harmed by this nonsense.
 
One of the listed groups is Trans Widow Voices. They say that actions are louder than words, or that a picture is worth a thousand words. Those three words combined with that one action and picture are all one needs to know just how much Amnesty hates women that are actually harmed by this nonsense.
Yup. They also tried to smear LGB Christians and LGB Alliance.
Is looking like a ventriloquist dummy an L?
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Is Ellen Page's tailor the biggest transphobe in Hollywood?
 
I really try not to let it get me down, but at least when I still looked like a woman, I was conventionally REALLY hot (I mean why would I have been raped so much if I wasn't 😅),
This is the saddest thing I‘ve seen in a while.
Me too. But not for the usual "Oh so sad, pooners poon out because they are sexually traumatized" thing.

I'm saddened because her If/Then logic about being attractive and being raped reveals a profoundly dark and twisted outlook. (She's all of 23 years old. Jeebus.) And if her being raped happened "so much" before pooning out, she was arguably caught up in a repetitive pattern of self destructive and/or risk junky behavior that she either couldn't or wouldn't see and correct. As a teenager, she can't be entirely faulted for that. But if something awful happens over and over, it's time to look at the Big Picture and how well you're taking care of yourself and not just write it off to bad luck. Or "being attractive = rape". (FFS.)

And of course she's breathed new life into it by becoming a pooner. How much more self destructive and/or risk seeking can you get than doing that?

Granted, she probably doesn't consider herself self destructive. Self destructive people rarely do. But what they also don't realize is that if you keep it up and don't take measures to protect yourself better, eventually you will be successful.
 
Me too. But not for the usual "Oh so sad, pooners poon out because they are sexually traumatized" thing.

I'm saddened because her If/Then logic about being attractive and being raped reveals a profoundly dark and twisted outlook. (She's all of 23 years old. Jeebus.) And if her being raped happened "so much" before pooning out, she was arguably caught up in a repetitive pattern of self destructive and/or risk junky behavior that she either couldn't or wouldn't see and correct. As a teenager, she can't be entirely faulted for that. But if something awful happens over and over, it's time to look at the Big Picture and how well you're taking care of yourself and not just write it off to bad luck. Or "being attractive = rape". (FFS.)

And of course she's breathed new life into it by becoming a pooner. How much more self destructive and/or risk seeking can you get than doing that?

Granted, she probably doesn't consider herself self destructive. Self destructive people rarely do. But what they also don't realize is that if you keep it up and don't take measures to protect yourself better, eventually you will be successful.
Rapists are opportunists more than anything else and usually in cases of someone going out of their way to get a particular person it's an obsession with that particular person and they're a psycho stalker for whatever reason they're fixated on the victim. Otherwise, all rapes are usually crimes of opportunity and people questioning what made the victim vulnerable and easy to take advantage of are genuine things to investigate. Like sure, attractiveness may make a predator choose one victim over the other if they get a "choice", but that's not the prime motivator for sex crimes necessarily.

The idea that sexual crimes come from more normal sexual urges is a dangerous and erroneous narrative that needs to die. It's not overwhelming horniness because of normal attraction. It's sadism.

I wonder if her history of SA is true and it's typical trans fantasizing about being fetishized that's doing it (which pooners do too not just trannies) or if the narrative that SA comes from a place of attraction is a protective lie (the real reasons she was victimized are more hurtful for whatever reason).
 
Something lied to you. As someone who runs public D&D games I am not just calling him autistic I am diagnosing him.

His whole not understanding how he comes off because he can’t, but wanting to argue about other people’s perceptions because he’s stubborn is something I’ve seen play out dozens of times. “If you can’t make me understand why I’m making you uncomfortable then I’m NOT!”

Autistics love to create these little rulesets in their mind, then get pissed off/act hurt when no one knows about them and refuse to play along.
 
It wasn’t uncommon for ”lesbian” troons to complain when human women and human lesbians set them up with other ”lesbian” troons.

Maybe this was occasionally done out of cattiness, but sometimes it was genuinely done out of the human women thinking that they would bond through shared experiences.
Yes, women would assume that because that’s how women bond, straight or gay.

Trans “””lesbians””” are offended bc they don’t understand that in any form or fashion. Because they’re men lol
 
That is a very good suit.
I'm sure it costs more than I make in a year, and I actually really like the color, but it looks too wide in the chest and shoulders. It has a very boxy look and the fabric on the sleeves looks overly rumpled near the seams. Page always looks like she's swimming in the suits she chooses to wear.
She passes fairly well if the goal was “underfed middle school boy on the cusp of puberty”.
I will push her wheelchair into the overgrown rose garden and dump her right out, goddammit!
 
These gaycels are being somewhat honest in that despite identifying as women they don't feel like true and honest ones.
By "stealth" he means sticking his dick in female-centric subreddits and using anonymity to blend in. He was kind enough to provide a picture, though:
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I can't imagine how this brick, who appears to be heightmogging the T&H men on either side of him, could strike up a conversation about female bodily functions and lived experiences in real life without being gray rocked by whatever unfortunate woman he has accosted.
Despite being a supposed HSTS, u/VanigliaBabe exhibits some very autogynephilic traits, like whining in r/smallbooblove about the sorry state of his gynecomastia while leering at the modest-chested natal women posting on the sub. And, you know, pretending to have a period.

Just...why the fuck would you do this? Even if I was a retarded handmaiden sympathetic to a tranny's plight, I'd be incredibly offput by having one ingratiate itself to me by lying about every facet of his existence in an attempt to get close to me. You don't see infertile women concocting elaborate stories about their imaginary pregnancies and childbirth in spaces like Mumsnet. Just creepy, pathological, predatory behavior.
 
Nah, middle aged women aren't to blame. They've never had any social clout to influence anything. These handmaidens are simply followers, they are going along with the "current thing", because women in general are more likely to conform to expectations. And actually, younger women are more supportive of this crap according to stats (women give less of a fuck about norms as they get older and that's why most Terfs are older)

Trans shit has been pushed by powerful institutions, it very efficiently infiltrated science, law, politics, academics, medicine... it's men who have the power and perversion to do this.
They may not have the social capital but they do have the institutional capital. Basically every learning institution (secondary post secondary) is led by middle aged, fat, female lefties pushing an agenda and (their own) politics above anything useful.

I’d argue that’s much more dangerous and it’s been happening for decades, it was a little more clandestine until recently. I’d argue that what the person you’re replying to meant and I’d argue it’s a much more silent but insidious type of clout than banking institutions and social media.
 
Yet another troon turns to reddit for backpats, as his family and friends reject his fetish. From reddit lies on Xwitter
I decided to check up this dude's account and his life is one L after another. Enjoy a compilation of a self-pitying tranny going woe is me, completely oblivious that he might be the problem, in chronological order.


r/depression by u/lenaphobic
2023-07-03

The worst feeling I have ever felt…

…is when you totally break down and ugly cry in front of others, and nobody cares. These are folks I have always considered my best friends and family.

Years of building up these emotions, being completely dead inside and you finally break under the weight of it all… and nobody is there for you. When all you needed was someone to hold your hand, hug you, tell you it’s going to be alright. And they just walk away like nothing happened. Regardless of all the times you were there for them when they were going through tough times. How do you even begin to cope with this?

r/personalfinance by u/lenaphobic
2023-07-28

37% APR on a motorcycle loan…

Hey y’all, i’ll keep this brief. Yesterday I went in to a local dealer to purchase a harley. Cost $6500 and I put $2500 down. I chose to finance through them as they were advertising 10% apr, and I was in a rush to buy the bike before they sold it out from under me while waiting to be approved by the CU.

Payments seemed a little high but I was planning on refinancing through my CU anyways. Got home, checked the paperwork and the APR is an ungodly 37% with a total after interest of around $12k despite having a 780 credit score.

I know the damage is already done and this is my fault for not paying enough attention out of excitement, but is refinancing through my CU the best thing to do at this point?

r/MakeNewFriendsHere by u/lenaphobic
2023-08-24

26, lost job yesterday and looking for friends to occupy time

Have a lot of time to talk to people now being out of work, and would love to make some long term friends and/or gaming buddies as I am sorely lacking in that department :)

A little about me… I am happily married to my spouse of 8 years, have a beautiful 6 year old daughter who is my world, play a lot of video games on pc, ride motorcycles, go overlanding in my fj, and occasionally drink and smoke with others. I am terribly obsessed with Baldur’s Gate 3 at the moment and would love to play with someone..

If any of this sounds interesting, feel free to message or leave a comment. Thank you!!

r/GamerPals by u/lenaphobic
2023-08-25

26/CST/PC - need a gaming best friend or two

Howdy y’all, I lost my job recently and have been sinking a lot more time into gaming and would love to find some long term friends to game with. I am very addicted to Baldur’s Gate 3 currently… but I also love pokémon, total war warhammer, dark souls/elden ring, the isle, ark, destiny 2, monster hunter, divinity, darktide, vermintide and many more games. If you’d like to add me, PM your discord and/or steam f/c! Thanks!!

r/SuicideWatch by u/lenaphobic
2023-09-21

26, no career, goals, friends or family

I got fired from my job of 6 years about a month ago for a stupid mistake I made. I’ve had no success getting any jobs due to my small work history and lack of education past a high school degree. My wife and daughter are all I have left really, my mom is a terrible alcoholic and the rest of my family is deceased or across the country. Any friends I’ve made deserted me throughout the years, and I’ve become so introverted that making friends has become nearly impossible. I feel like a total failure and everything I’ve ever done has lead to nothing but false hope and depression.

I sleep for over 12 hours until 2pm every day, stare at a screen for hours when I’m not crying myself to sleep or sending out hundreds of job apps. I’m already so tired of being a stay at home parent, doing all the chores and taking care of our home but I can’t find a single job. Nothing I do brings any happiness or joy like it used to. I have no goals or aspirations to keep me going other than to care for my child.

Everyone around me keeps telling me to keep my chin up, something is bound to happen and my life will get better but I’ve heard that for years and never seen any positive change. I’m at a loss for what to do anymore and the only thing keeping me here is the fear of leaving my wife and our daughter behind…

r/ugly by u/lenaphobic
2024-03-28

Anyone else notice everybody avoids being friends with you?

I was talking to the new girl at work, and she mentioned how she would have hour long text conversations on the daily with my favorite coworker. I can rarely get a text back from him about important things from work. Honestly thought he was just a busy person, so never paid it any attention. Then I find out from her that they all hang out, game, see movies together on their days off. Made me want to crawl in a hole and die.

Worst part is that it’s like this everywhere I go. Every club, organization or job I move to is the same situation. I used to think it was my personality… but I always have online friends, who don’t know what I look like, that enjoy socializing with me regularly. It’s so depressing how someone’s looks can completely isolate you from society.

r/FriendshipAdvice by u/lenaphobic
2024-05-16

Best friend reached out after 8 years, became increasingly rude during our conversations

My best friend from high school went radio silent about 8 years ago while going through rough times and moving out of state. A couple weeks ago he reached out to me to talk on discord and play games. Our conversations would go great, then towards the end of the night he would ramble on and on(for hours)about stuff I know nothing about and I never knew what to say. Mind you, he would message every day wanting to talk because of how lonely he’s been and as a busy parent I limited that to every other day.

Last saturday we talked for about 8 hours, before he hung up he said that I add little to the conversation/don’t banter enough with him like we used to. I didn’t think anything of this as I thought he was just bullshitting like usual. He hasn’t reached out to me since and refused to answer my texts.

As much as I really wanted this friendship to go well and to reconnect with someone I genuinely cared about, I can’t help but feel very hurt and question if I should just move on.

r/GamerPals by u/lenaphobic
2024-06-29

Need a gaming and smoking buddy

Howdy, I just need someone to spend my lonely nights with. I’m 28, play on PC/switch/vr and am usually free after 8:30pm central every night… usually up until 3am. I’m very socially anxious but warm up to people pretty quickly. Play lots of turn-based, JRPGS, RPGs and RTS. Don’t play shooters or competitive games, except maybe Destiny 2. Down to pick up or try any games if we become friends.

r/RantsFromRetail by u/lenaphobic
2024-07-26

I’m getting sick of being singled out by management for being the antisocial/quiet one who just goes to work for a paycheck.

I work in the dock of an outfitter. First retail job, and while it’s pretty relaxed, management is killing me. I’m left alone to close after 4pm and expected to do a chores list while making sure freight is processed. I have to answer pages, bring any of the 30 sales people anything to restock their register, move 100lb fixtures on and off the floor, clean up all spills and bathroom messes, etc.

So… when I see coworkers sit for hours every day in front of management, gossip in circles around customers, flat out refuse to do their jobs, call in over 10 times a month(seriously, what the fuck?)… I have to ask why I get singled out on a note above our schedule for sitting down to process clothes at the end of the night? They know I have severe ankle arthritis, they see me limping all the time. They’ve never said anything verbally in the 10 months I’ve been here. Why do I get more and more chores added to my list? Why do you get onto me for walking away from the dock phone when you want me to check trash and bathrooms every hour? Why do you leave notes about going in the back to put up fixtures, when that is MY JOB?

r/loneliness by u/lenaphobic
2024-11-09

Anyone else just genuinely incapable of making friends?

Let me set the record straight - I’m not lonely, entirely. I’ve got a wife and child that I very much enjoy spending time with. But when it comes to friends, I just can’t figure out what the problem is. Always the odd one out, never invited to anything, never talk to me even when they add me on socials or get my number, always the one texting first and never getting responses.

Of course, everyone has that friend group they established in school or college. Mine dissolved after we all moved away after highschool, and I’ve never been able to get another group since. I’ve reconnected with old best friends, they usually are too busy or have changed too much and are unrecognizable thus our personalities don’t mesh anymore.

Even when I manage to establish what seems like a friendship, I put all the work in and never get anything out of it. And I don’t think it’s social skills, as I get along great with coworkers and neighbors… it just never progresses past that.

What gives? Is this the new societal norm, to stick with a friend group and never attempt to broaden it for any loners out there?

r/recruitinghell by u/lenaphobic
2025-05-12

I’m so tired of this.

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Stepfather’s company finally opened another entry level IT tech position, something I pivoted towards getting certs and a degree. He spent days gathering information from their HR department. And after hours of tweaking my resume, cover letter and filling out their awful PDF application… I get a measly email telling me the exact opposite of what they discussed with him.

Once again, dangling that carrot when you clearly had an internal candidate already picked out.

For next one, note HLM = Higher Libido Male and LLF = Lower Libido Female
r/DeadBedrooms by u/lenaphobic
2025-06-06

Another reminder

Well, we finally planned a date night last night. I(28HLM) saved up for months and bought tickets to a concert for my wife’s(28LLF) favorite band.

I’ve never been to a concert before, but what struck me is how many couples were getting drunk and grinding/touching each other in public. Older couples dancing romantically, holding hands, sitting in laps… and we just stood there, as I rubbed her back and she completely ignored my existence as she excitedly freaked out over every song. We had drank a lot, which never happens, and she batted away every attempt of being close together.

Got home and she went straight to bed, not even a thank you. Woke up this morning feeling terrible with a fever, and she leaves to go shopping with our daughter. Never once asked if she could get me anything, checked to see if I was okay, nothing. My heart is broken, but I’m not surprised anymore.

r/DeadBedrooms by u/lenaphobic
2025-06-26

Rough gut punch this morning

Wife and I have, for years, talked about having another child. All she has wanted was another one, and I’ve only said we just needed to wait until the right time when we have better jobs.

Fast forward to tuesday night, I’ve really thought hard about it and feel we are financially stable enough, so I bring it up. She immediately tells me that we don’t have sex enough to try. This took me off guard as she is always the one rejecting or refusing to initiate, so I just swept it under the rug to avoid another argument.

This morning, my sister-in-law calls to let me know that she is pregnant with their second baby, a day after their first baby’s birthday. The feeling of resentment, jealousy and bitterness hit me like a tidal wave immediately after I got off the phone. I won’t go into details, but they have had major issues recently in their short marriage and yet they are still managing a stable sex life and going to have baby number two. And here I am, wanting another child and my wife doesn’t even look in my direction half the time. I don’t even know where to go from here.

r/recruitinghell by u/lenaphobic
2025-07-23

Coworker ruined my chance of getting promotion and I’m at a loss for words

I was laid off from my govt job in 2023 and have worked at a department store for two years now. Our “engineer”(maintenance guy) retired last october and his position opened up. I applied, but the engineering manager within our company had already made the decision to hire my coworker in my department because they needed a replacement immediately.

Anyway, said coworker was already planning to leave this year and the entire store’s management was gunning for me to take over the spot when he left. He turned in his two weeks last week and I applied. Because they didn’t get along with him well socially and he proved to be lazy, they decided they didn’t want to hire from within our department and have completely ignored my application.

What kills me is that this engineering manager told our store management for months that they loved me, knew of my previous experience and qualifications, and thought I’d be a good fit. But because of my coworker, they are going to hire from outside.

I swear to god I can’t catch a break after this last layoff and am likely going to rot in retail because of the job market.

r/deadbedroom by u/lenaphobic
2025-09-04

For all the fathers out there…

Did any of you have an incredible, sex-filled relationship prior to marriage and your first child, only for it to drop off a cliff immediately after? I was told for years that things would get better, it was just postpartum depression, you name it. Now 8 years later, our bedroom might as well be dead. We have sex about 3 times a year and it is ALWAYS duty sex after begging for any form of affection beyond hugs and kissing.

I don’t know if there is some kind of hormonal change that comes with motherhood where some women just wake up one day and lose all interest or if this is exclusively an issue with my wife and I am doing something wrong.

r/FacebookMarketplace by u/lenaphobic
2025-09-14

What is the deal with people blocking before meetup?

I’ve been trying to sell a motorcycle for a few months now, and I’ve had 3 separate instances where a guy is really friendly and talks about the bike for a couple days while scheduling a meetup. Then the day before meetup, they block me out of the blue with no explanation. It’s starting to really piss me off.

r/inlaws by u/lenaphobic
2025-12-25

Anyone else sick of EVERYTHING being about the in-laws?

Just for context, I have no more family left alive on my side. So for nearly 10 years, every holiday and family birthday involves going to a party in a cramped house with 40+ Trump supporting bible thumpers that I can’t stand.

This year, my car broke down the day before christmas eve so I phone my father in law and ask for his help fixing it. When it came time for him to swing by, he instead went to a candlelight dinner at their church and left me stranded to work on it myself.

This was the straw that broke the camel’s back. I told my wife flat out last night that his actions pissed me off, considering how many times I have gotten him out of a bind, so I refused to attend the christmas party today. So my wife, rather than being supportive or understanding, leaves me home alone on christmas so she can attend their party.

So I’m left here thinking about how much our life has revolved around pleasing them, how much they have taken advantage of my wife’s kindness and compassion. She has worked overnights all month and babysat all the grandkids for them directly after(which my MIL is being PAID for) so they can attend church events and christmas shop. She doesn’t seem to grasp what is happening and thinks it is normal, and I don’t know what to do anymore. They literally can do no wrong in her eyes.

r/lonely by u/lenaphobic
2026-01-10

Anyone else feel like the black sheep?

I don't know what it is that causes it, but my entire life I've been an unintentional loner.

I have no family left alive other than a narcissistic mother. I have no friends and can never seem to make long lasting ones. I'm married with a child, but my wife and daughter spend all their time with her family and friends. Her family involves all the other son-in-laws but never invites or seems to want me around. Never invited unless someone wants something from me.

It's even worse when looking at social media. I'm never in any photos. My mother has only ever posted photos of her with my daughter. My wife is the same. All of her family and siblings have tons of photos of them and their husbands and it makes me feel terrible, like I'm the ugly duckling that nobody wants to see.

After years of this, I just prefer being entirely alone or secluded from others in fear of being ignored or invisible in a group setting.

r/DeadBedrooms by u/lenaphobic
2026-01-14

It’s not just about the lack of sex anymore

It’s the lack of romance.

It’s the absence of intimacy and feeling like you are a married couple and soul mates, rather than college roommates.

It’s the heart-wrenching memories of a much brighter time in your relationship, where they craved and desired you. You feel like you were bamboozled.

It’s not knowing what happened to make them change, as they claim nothing has changed or is wrong.

It’s them not pulling their weight as you do everything. The house could fall apart and you’d be the one expected to rebuild it, with no gratitude.

It’s the lack of genuine small talk, knowing they could care less what happens during your day.

It’s the absence of time together, every time you look up they are somewhere else with somebody else more important. And they don’t see it as a problem.

It’s witnessing coworkers, family and friends having healthy sex lives and children back to back. Knowing they are consistently having sex while you skulk in silence.

It’s knowing that you want to do anything for them and they could care less.

It’s knowing you can’t leave for greener pastures because there are too many complications and you don’t want to give up.

It’s the countless talks, the begging for anything to change, only to go back to the exact scenario after a week or two.

It’s like being in love with a brick wall that you don’t even recognize anymore.

r/Divorce_Men by u/lenaphobic
2026-01-21

She walked out last friday and I’m struggling to cope

Long story short, a stupid lie from years ago that I made was brought up out of nowhere when I got home from work. There was no cheating involved, it was a personal matter I hid.

I tried to explain, be supportive and vowed to go to therapy/counseling but she stormed off to her parents. She came home Sunday to spend time with our daughter. I began to get hopeful that she just needed time and space. She then left on tuesday for work, and that night made my daughter call me and tell me they were staying over there.

I unfortunately work with her sister, who is the only person in their family who has reached out and checked on me frequently. She says my wife is so angry that she has brought up divorce to their family multiple times and none of their attempts to calm her down is working. I don’t even recognize this woman as my wife anymore, she has become a stranger.

Don’t know what to do anymore. I have no support system, friends are too busy to spend time with, no family but a mother who is only concerned with getting my ducks in a row. Our house was nearly paid off, I just cosigned a new car for her last year.

I feel betrayed but nobody seems to care. How do you even get past this point and move on? She was my high school sweetheart, next year would have been 10 years of marriage, her and our daughter were the greatest things to happen to me.

r/Divorce_Men by u/lenaphobic
2026-02-04

Nearly 3 weeks later and still no word

Friday will be 3 weeks since she walked out on me and we have not discussed what we are doing. I’ve spent these weeks traveling back and forth from our home and the in-laws house to make sure my kiddo sleeps in her bed and isn’t exhausted at school, rather than sleeping on the floor like they’ve had her done over there.

We got her a phone shortly before this happened, and my wife has been making my daughter call to communicate with me about picking her up. I just feel like I’m being used to get her to school, while my wife gets to be the fun parent who takes her out on her days off and spoils her with our money.

My daughter informed me tonight that my wife is going out with her coworker next Saturday, the weekend she was supposed to have our daughter. Don’t even know if this is a guy or one of her girl friends. She planned to have my mom watch her that weekend. Yet on my days off, I have spent all my time with our child as parents should. Spent three weeks taking care of OUR house and OUR dogs, making sure OUR daughter has all of her schoolwork done and is showered/fed which she rarely is over there… while she is living it up having the time of her life at her parents house.

I am beyond crushed. I know I should file, it will happen soon, but the feeling of loving and missing someone deeply as they slowly fade away from you is the worst fucking feeling. I fully understand now why so many men refuse to date for a long time after divorce.

r/Divorce_Men by u/lenaphobic
2026-02-08

A surprisingly positive update

Well boys, it happened. Weeks ago I posted about my wife storming off after a fight. 3 weeks of silence and I came home to her sitting on the couch waiting for me.

We talked for a good 5 hours like we never have before. We ate dinner together and watched a show. It was bittersweet spending one last night with her in the house we built together.

We came to the conclusion that, although we are proceeding with the divorce, we want to remain close friends. She decided that I should keep the house and wouldn’t want the money she also put into it. She didn’t want anything monetarily, she just wants us to stay friends and healthily coparent together. I vowed to help pay off her car, get her some furniture and make sure she is safe and happy. It’s the least I can do.

We are going to a mediator this week to see what all needs done. I imagine it’s going to be a rough road for the next year or so, but we are now communicating more than we ever have and I have faith it will get better with time.

I just wanted to share this with ya’ll to tell you that it’s not *always* doom and gloom in divorce. Sometimes you both just drift apart and realize it’s the best thing you can do for both of you.

r/MtF by u/lenaphobic
2026-03-02

New provider won’t prescribe E until hematology visit

Hey ladies, I’m just now re-visiting transition after a long hiatus due to a divorce. I established myself with a local provider I used before, but a different doctor. She saw my platelets were elevated and I am close to anemia, and won’t prescribe estrogen until I can get an all clear from a hematologist because of risk of bloodclots. I have spherocytosis and an iron deficiency, so these labs have always been normal. My other doctor never showed any concern through the years I was on HRT.

Problem is, I can’t find a single hematologist here that will take anyone without insurance. Should I just look for a different provider or be firm about wanting to start HRT?

r/lonely by u/lenaphobic
2026-05-01

So tired of being a stepping stone for people I care about

I just went through a rough divorce at the beginning of the year, and decided to move in with my best friend since high school. We hadn’t talked a lot for a couple years so it was fun catching up. I was really starting to feel happy again after 10 years of a very lonely marriage.

Little did I know, he was using me to move down here to get a fresh dating scene. He’s made so many plans with me, only to interrupt movie or game nights for midnight booty calls with this girl he just met on tinder that he’s constantly texting while we are talking or hanging out.

And it dawns on me. Everyone I’ve ever cared about does this to me. I’m always the last choice. Always put aside when something better comes along, then they come running back when they’re bored, knowing I’ll embrace them with open arms because I have nobody else to turn to. My wife used to do this, my mother does this, even my daughter does this. I don’t know how much more I can take.

His last post is what I quoted in the beginning.

From what I can piece together it sounds like the troon came out to his wife either as she was pregnant or when his daughter was still very young, and he briefly got his way to identify as a tranny, OR he tried to hide it for several years before his wife found out. Whatever happened, it blew up his life. I'm assuming she tried to make peace with it and the troon is able to continue with E, but his wife increasingly isolates him out of embarrassment. Not sure if his wife finally got a word in for him to cut the crap because sometimes he posts as if he wasn't a troon. Tries to throw his in-laws under the bus even though he was probably a deadbeat himself, according to the posts where he admits spending all day playing vidya. Predictably the troon isn't very revealing about all this when asking various subreddits about dead bedroom/divorce advice, and he picks up the troonery right after divorce. Typical.
 
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The responses are ridiculous, here's one troon's idea for a speech to give the 8 year old daughter:

"Sometimes when people are uncomfortable, they use the Bible as a weapon to try and hurt other people. There's nothing in the Bible that says people can't be trans, but it does say a lot about talking bad about people behind their back.

I know you're uncomfortable with this. I am too, a little. But I'm also happy, and I wasn't happy for a really long time. The Bible does say that God loves us and wants us to be happy, doesn't it? I know I don't look like exactly like a woman, but do you think we should judge people by the way they look? If you're in school with a girl and she's maybe not the prettiest, or she's flat chested, or maybe she's even got zits and big teeth, are you going to tell her she's not a girl? No, that would be really mean, and God wants us to be nice to each other. It's what He sent Jesus to tell us.

I'm the same person you've always known, I'm just happy now. Your mom is upset and doesn't understand, so she doesn't want you to be happy for me or try to understand it, either. Sometimes grown-ups don't handle things any better than kids do, and sometimes they try and use kids against each other. I'm not going to say anything bad about your mom, not now and not ever. But I'm going to talk to her, because she shouldn't be bad-mouthing me either. It's not nice, and it's not right."

Yeah I'm sure saying that will work!

Sorry, troon, you chose your gross fetish over your family. Time to live with the consequences.

They never seem to register how creepy it is to be coaching someone on how to indoctrinate their child.

It's hard to imagine an adult hasn't watched at least one documentary about a cult, and joined the dots on some of their own behaviour.

Also laughed at "Your mom is upset and doesn't understand, so she doesn't want you to be happy for me or try to understand it, either"

followed by "I'm not going to say anything bad about your mom, not now and not ever."

The carefully tailored, manipulative language as creepy as ever here
 
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