I am tired of not being able to do stuff, like bitch about things unrelated to this surgery. I'm sure there are loads of things for me to complain about, yet here I am bitching about gallbladder surgery recovery time again!
I'm truly beginning to think doctors don't know nearly as much as we give them credit for.
I used to get frequent UTIs (apparently, my body does not have the ability to produce good bacteria on its own, a problem I have evidently had for probably a good deal of my life), so I'm on a bunch of probiotics now. However, two years ago, I was told that if I was going to have sex, I was supposed to take an antibiotic before as a preventative - making my situation even worse! The urologist who prescribed the antibiotics thought nothing of such a problem, my gynecologist pointed out my bacteria deficiency, and yet somehow, I couldn't get either one to agree on a way to correct the situation. One gave me bad advice and the other basically told me to sort it out on my own.
Point being: even doctors don't get your unique situation, let alone normal people. Bitch all you want, and then bitch some more, because if your recovery isn't going as well as it should, and there's a bigger problem, you'll need to get people to start listening to you in case the worst happens (whatever that might be and I hope it doesn't).
These people would go into fetal position and die if they actually ever experienced the crimes the people they simp for committed.
The people who hold these opinions are so isolated from crime that they aren’t even putting together the type of pros and cons list that a child could probably manage.
Most people who don't have a visceral sense of crime (e.g., something that's actually happened to them) don't know what actual crime is like. I come from a dysfunctional family in which more than one person has been brought up on rape charges. When I explain this to people, I get a look of "but you're so
normal", because they understand victims of domestic abuse are in run-down apartments, constantly flinching at every slightly raised intonation, shying away from people because of scars or emotional damage. Because that's what it looks like on TV and in the movies.
Real crime is basically distilled down to its essence for mass consumption, so most people see crime on TV and think "that's how crime happens". Time constraints of the medium don't allow for long sagas to play out, like the slow breakdown of a wife and mother over years of aggression and how she convinces herself to have children with someone like that. How bullying gets excused because "that's just how boys behave". How sex becomes gray-area rape because of parents that have no interest in teaching their kids about the word "no" or how to not put themselves in situations where they might not be able to say "no".
It's how when people here look at every "hate crime" whose only evidence is some sort of written-for-the screen vandalism and say, "Hey, wait a minute, are you sure this was for real?". And that's why a lot of people believe hate crime hoaxes until they're revealed to be hoaxes - because they don't have a sense of "real crime". Feels nice to know there are pockets of people who haven't experienced real crime that they don't know about it, and I'm sure we all wish we could live in them, but the fact is, that's not reality, and I hate it when those people take over the narrative of crime from the people who have actually lived it.
