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these fuckers, using HR as a shield to stop wrongthink, demanding people ignore that is the obvious truth because they will be punished for it. they get the slightest power and they instantly want to abuse it to control and ruin peoples lives
Men: dating as a straight woman vs male presenting gay (self.StraightTransGirls)
submitted 1 day ago by Contiguous_spazz
A big difference struck me today, a difference that I was slow to acclimate towards as I grew into myself as a woman.
Dating as a reasonably conventionally attractive “gay male”, other gay men typically wanted to fuck me, but always gave me “stank face.” If I offered attention, they offered indifference or else transform into giggly behavior. They’d roll their eyes, be mean, catty, anything but sincere and nice until they were soliciting sex, at which point they would magically transform into these fawning or else bossy guys more or less trying to convince me to let them have sex with me. I think this is often the way that I observed gay men interact. (The “masc for masc” types were usually more studiedly indifferent in general, regardless of their sexual interest).
My experience with straight men has been totally different. They seem genuinely happy to see me, to open the door for me, really for me to give them any attention whatsoever. They are kind, helpful, yes at times misogynist or condescending but it’s just an entirely different vibe. When approaching with intimate interest they tend to approach nervously, but indifference or that weird competitive behavior (directed at me) just isn’t there.
Idk really what to make of it, but after a period of passing (?), getting out of my region and traveling again, I’ve been trying to put my finger on what’s different now vs then it’s just night and day.
And it feels amazing.
I hope I didn’t bother anyone, I’m posting this but it’s kind of a half baked rumination and there’s not really anyone to properly share it with so I’m just dropping it here as a sounding board.
The first comment is very telling on how gay men aren't into effeminate behavior.
springmixplease 9 points 1 day ago
I don’t if it’s so much the guys as it is you feeling comfortable in your own body. I can honestly say, I was a very attractive gay man, I had no issues getting attention from other gay men. I liked the attention from men as a man but then when it came to anything other than sex, they expected me to act like a man and that obviously didn’t work.
I’m pretty as woman but average looking, I’m some guys type but not every guys but I’d take that over everything. Dating was so much more comfortable post transition, the way guys treated me with chivalry and kindness felt right. So I don’t if the guys as much as it’s us. My gay friends love when guys “treat them like men”, that was disturbing to me personally and gave me immense dysphoria.
sparklingwatterson 4 points 15 hours ago
That’s more where I was at, I only dated one person before I transitioned and she was a cis woman. I stopped dating after that until I started my transition. I prefer men now. I didn’t want to be a gay man it sounded wrong. I’m a bisexual woman and it feels so much more right.
ReginaTenebra 5 points 1 day ago
This vibes as homophobic. I don't think that's your intent, but it may be worth unpacking. I'm not here to say you're a bad person or to judge you, I'm just letting you know so you can think about it.
I'm not questioning your experiences, but I am questioning your interpretation. Straight men are fuck boys just as often as gay men are. However, most straight men play the cisheteronormative games of acting superficially chivalrous in front of you, and hiding their misogynistic trash attitude for their friends and locker rooms. Some gay men just live the locker room conversation through their 20s.
My experiences with gay men weren't great either, but I know from both trans women friends and gay male friends that my experiences don't match their experiences. Cis gay men in particular have very different experiences dating gay men. As I get older, I know how to filter out the fuckboys better than I did in my 20s.
Transmisogyny often comes out in our dating experiences before transition, though differently, sometimes stronger in some ways before, sometimes stronger in different ways after (our experiences vary a lot on that).
Contiguous_spazz 6 points 1 day ago*
That’s an absolutely valid critique, and I clocked it myself upon a re-read (this kind of outside perspective was more or less what I was looking for).
It is valid and important to realize that there was nothing wrong with the way gay men signal interest inherently. Only that because I was visually signaling “man” at the time, while always being “woman” internally, the wires were crossed. Navigating that pool felt hostile to me, because it wasn’t my natural habitat.
Thank you for addressing that!
Edit: don’t downvote Regina, I asked for critical engagement and I found her gentle confrontation helpful. We all have blind spots, I value people in this world who challenge me to improve.
[–]Past-Sherbert-6438 2 points 20 hours ago
also... you might have had the "trans woman who hates herself is with gay guy who hates himself for different reasons" problem
More gay men trying to become women to avoid being treated like fags, but are still just DL secrets most of the time.
People our age don't say "Am I giving a male vibe here?". Sir, you're giving a male concert, a male orchestra.. I don't know what else relates to a vibe but that too.
ReginaTenebra 5 points 1 day ago
This vibes as homophobic. I don't think that's your intent, but it may be worth unpacking. I'm not here to say you're a bad person or to judge you, I'm just letting you know so you can think about it.
I'm not questioning your experiences, but I am questioning your interpretation.
these fuckers, using HR as a shield to stop wrongthink, demanding people ignore that is the obvious truth because they will be punished for it. they get the slightest power and they instantly want to abuse it to control and ruin peoples lives
Ah yes, single mothers....famously known for being extremely wealthy? Maybe if his only understanding of single mothers is reality TV shows focusing on famous people like the Kardashians. Troons are once again proving their view of reality solely comes from consuming media and not going outside.
Ah yes, single mothers....famously known for being extremely wealthy? Maybe if his only understanding of single mothers is reality TV shows focusing on famous people like the Kardashians. Troons are once again proving their view of reality solely comes from consuming media and not going outside.
It's a reference to the second top post (archive) of all time on /ftm, where a woman a few weeks on testosterone purchases chicken in a fugue state and 'gets hard' from eating it with her hands:
I’ve seen a drunk “stacy” sit on the floor of her dormitory and eat rare steak cold from her fridge with her bare hands. It’s insane how these women (is “girls” too optimistic?) do the most banal shit ever and think they’re hard for it. It’s fucking chicken.. You know, “finger-licking good”? Eating it with your hands is normal independent of sex.
Like, come on. Have they never been to a sleepover with other girls and see some kid eat 45 marshmallows at once? They must literally never interact with people IRL or been to a single night-long house-party.
I’ve seen a drunk “stacy” sit on the floor of her dormitory and eat rare steak cold from her fridge with her bare hands. It’s insane how these women (is “girls” too optimistic?) do the most banal shit ever and think they’re hard for it. It’s fucking chicken.. You know, “finger-licking good”? Eating it with your hands is normal independent of sex.
Like, come on. Have they never been to a sleepover with other girls and see some kid eat 45 marshmallows at once? They must literally never interact with people IRL or been to a single night-long house-party.
TwoFingersWhiskey [score hidden] 12 hours ago
A bunch of gay guys would admit to having crushes on me before I came out, but not understanding why or even having a crisis of sexuality. No, boys, your gaydar was correct...
Oh a familiar username - I recognize it from the Sims 2 custom content community which has a disproportionate number of pooners even before it became a common thing - possibly due to millennial NLOGery causing more cognitive dissonance when you're addicted to what amounts to a dollhouse simulator. Also quite possibly a munchie, though not particularly lolcowish, much less for that community's standards.
Now I know what you're thinking - must be a troll. I thought so too, but it seems like he's not
Women need to stop being lazy and take care of their appearances. Men are hammering his dms apologising for pleasuring themselves to his pics because he's so pretty
Dear biological women
Please stop being lazy. Why do I get so many men everyday messaging me about wanting to apologize for pleasuring themselves to my photos but wanted to tell me im pretty? The problem is that they can tell I appreciate femininity more than most biological women they know
Men please continue to message me all you want about anything. It's ok this gal gets it. 1 don't blame you. Being pretty is easy for me these days. Im glad it gets people excited.
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