Tips and tricks for training your manservant - Men are dogs jaaaaaaaaaaa

[RomanianSchizo]

I love giving my boyfriend food if he's having a bad day or hasn't eaten in a while. He's already the type of the guy who does anything he can to please me, but I would not be surprised if the fact that I give him food also incentivizes him to help me with things.

Huh, I think my husband has been doing this with me. When I act out, he offers food or asks me if talking a walk will help
calm me down. If I continue snapping at him and frothing at the mouth, he suggests I go to the room to read and have some alone time.

These techniques work on women too.

This is so sweet. My boyfriend does the same, and I've found it's 100% effective.

I did a background check on my bf and I randomly drop details he hasn't told me to make him think I'm psychic and we have a deeper connection. Also try "coincidentally" running into them they love this and will think you're always watching so they can't act up.

I look up my boyfriend's family every so often, and whenever we're talking about his family I'll just randomly drop details about them. He's always so surprised and is like "How do you know that?", it's the cutest thing. Additionally, because I know so much about his family through my research, I'm able to help him find information about them that his own parents wouldn't share with him (which now that I think about it, probably gives me leverage over him which is pretty cool).

 

[Kalamazoo 2 Timbuktu]

I love giving my boyfriend food if he's having a bad day or hasn't eaten in a while. He's already the type of the guy who does anything he can to please me, but I would not be surprised if the fact that I give him food also incentivizes him to help me with things.

Men are actually very easy to please. Food, a few kind words, a little affection and unwavering loyalty always do the trick. Mine is appreciative, even if I accidentally burn the food. Although , I think it helps I picked one of the great ones.

Best of luck in your relationship.

 

[RomanianSchizo]

Men are actually very easy to please. Food, a few kind words, a little affection and unwavering loyalty always do the trick. Mine is appreciative, even if I accidentally burn the food. Although , I think it helps I picked one of the great ones.

Best of luck in your relationship.

Thank you for the kind words! I agree they are very easy to please haha.

 

[#1 Hot Sauce of Kiwi Farm]

Yes compliments go extremely far with men. Most of them are so starved for positive affirmation one small compliment will make their day. This is why so many of them flock to streamers and v-tubers.

Simply remembering what they say or following up on a passing conversation has gotten my male staff members to go above and beyond or willing offer to do extra work that they do not need to do.

In the future i'll have to bake something for the floor and see if it further improves moral.

 

[Otterly]

Simply remembering what they say or following up on a passing conversation has gotten my male staff members to go above and beyond or willing offer to do extra work that they do not need to do.

Something my dad always told me: everyone is quick to point out at work where you’ve gone wrong and yet they rarely say thank you when it goes right. Just acknowledging people’s efforts goes a long way. Almost everyone responds well to small interactions that show you see them as a valuable person rather than a drone. I think men in particular like to feel useful.

 

[TismFarmer]

No reward/a small reward every time with a bigger reward occasionally for the same behavior is a very effective tool for children's behavior but it works on moids too. If they know they'll get the big reward every time they do x, they stop thinking of new ways to impress you. Whereas if it's occasional they'll keep going above and beyond to try to get that reward again.

Casino designers have long known that infrequent intermittent random rewards are by far the most addictive/best incentive.
If kids get rewarded every time, they'll do the bare minimum to get the reward. If you occasionally exclaim "Wow! You got the lounge really clean this time! Here, have 'X' for doing such a good job!
You’ll get them chasing the praise dragon in no time!

Also, if you want to see men get absolutely delighted, just compliment complete strangers.
I do it to women as well, but its kinda heartbreaking how men react. Like Noone ever told them anything like that before.
I've seen a full grown man get all emotional because I told him "I just want to tell you that your beard really suits you. You look good!" It's not an attraction thing because I'm a granny and I compliment young and old alike.

 

[glioblastoma multiforme]

My partner had complained about being underpaid and undervalued in his job for like 2 years. Each time he brought it up I told him to get another job, Towards the end it got him depressed and he was very moody, he was not nice at all to be around.

In the end I got fed up and told him to sleep in the spare room and that he couldn't come back and I wanted minimal contact with him until he'd started applying for new jobs. He got the first job he applied for with a 50% pay rise. I told him to never undervalue himself like he had been again.

Its a nuclear option but if something is getting your partner down that you can't help them with, using whatever leverage you can to force them to take action works.

If anyone has tips on how to get them to see small chores that need doing, like dusting skirting boards or sweeping pet hair up, I'd be most grateful. He seems blind to certain types of dirt.

 

[Otis Mallebrok]

If anyone has tips on how to get them to see small chores that need doing, like dusting skirting boards or sweeping pet hair up, I'd be most grateful. He seems blind to certain types of dirt.

I think it is just practice. When you clean surfaces a lot, you develop that eye for all the nooks and little ledges where dust gathers. He probably just needs to clean more often, and then thoroughness will come eventually, along with the muscle memory.

 

[#1 Hot Sauce of Kiwi Farm]

Something my dad always told me: everyone is quick to point out at work where you’ve gone wrong and yet they rarely say thank you when it goes right. Just acknowledging people’s efforts goes a long way. Almost everyone responds well to small interactions that show you see them as a valuable person rather than a drone. I think men in particular like to feel useful.

Yes I am aware that you catch more flies with honey. Though I don't really focus on mistakes unless they are severe. I will ask how and why it happened and then explain the correct process to avoid further mistakes. Mistakes happen the only thing that matters is how you go about correcting or profiting off a mistake. A happy employee is a productive one that willingly goes above and beyond which makes me look good so I make sure to reward them as best I am able.

Speaking of rewards and this thread I took the advice and did bake some cinnamon rolls for my floor including the janitorial staff. I should have baked something else as cinnamon rolls are quite sticky which lead to more clean up than I had originally thought... Everyone seemed to enjoy them which was nice as while I do not enjoy cooking for myself I like to see others enjoy what I make.

My partner had complained about being underpaid and undervalued in his job for like 2 years. Each time he brought it up I told him to get another job, Towards the end it got him depressed and he was very moody, he was not nice at all to be around.

In the end I got fed up and told him to sleep in the spare room and that he couldn't come back and I wanted minimal contact with him until he'd started applying for new jobs. He got the first job he applied for with a 50% pay rise. I told him to never undervalue himself like he had been again.

Its a nuclear option but if something is getting your partner down that you can't help them with, using whatever leverage you can to force them to take action works.

If anyone has tips on how to get them to see small chores that need doing, like dusting skirting boards or sweeping pet hair up, I'd be most grateful. He seems blind to certain types of dirt.

You were just concerned and knew your husband's true worth. I believe he was just concerned about job security if we take into account the current economy; many people do not even attempt to look for better prospects out of fear.

It may have been the nuclear option, but you tried the proper way and he kept dismissing the words of someone who might know them better than they know themselves. Hopefully this is the last time you have to do something so drastic as this event leads to him listening to you more.

As for tips on how to make someone do something. Have you tried separating the chores? Talk about which tasks you'd rather do and breakdown who does what and how impactful each individual task is to better divvy up the chores. If that does not work some positive of negative reinforcement might work.

 

[AbyssGazer]

Interesting thread. A lot of this stuff can certainly be applied the other way around. The kryptonite to every negative tactic applied against you, for both sexes, is to have an abundance mentality and just don't care deeply. This can only be achieved authentically by filling your life with multiple sources of happiness, it's difficult to fake.

In the end I got fed up and told him to sleep in the spare room and that he couldn't come back and I wanted minimal contact with him until he'd started applying for new jobs.

I'll never understand how a man (or woman for that matter) lets himself be kicked out of his own bedroom. My girl tried that with me once, I said no, and that was the end of it. What's she gonna do, drag me out by my feet?

 

[Otis Mallebrok]

Interesting thread. A lot of this stuff can certainly be applied the other way around. The kryptonite to every negative tactic applied against you, for both sexes, is to have an abundance mentality and just don't care deeply.

But the thing is is, if you love someone, you actually do care deeply. You should try it, there is nothing like it.

 

[AbyssGazer]

But the thing is is, if you love someone, you actually do care deeply. You should try it, there is nothing like it.

Love and attachment are very easy to confuse with each other, but they are fundamentally different. If you're afraid to lose someone, you're more likely to lose them.

 

[glioblastoma multiforme]

I'll never understand how a man (or woman for that matter) lets himself be kicked out of his own bedroom.

Never been around someone so furious you don't want to be in the same room as them? And known that person has a point?

More power to you if your authentically fulfilling life doesn't include other people, or is at least preferable to making the odd cup of tea, cleaning up after yourself, and cancelling other plans in the case of a loved ones severe illness.

Taking my loved ones out of my best memories makes them seem hollower. And I'm an unsociable bitch who hates almost everyone. I'm happy to do small actions to make those people happier to have me around, and ensure our relationships are equitable, but like most women have certain frustrations about the division of labour in the home.

 

[Doublefrag]

Feed your man HRT and put him in a chastity cage so he became one of your asexual girl friends. You can bond with each other by going shopping and having double dates.

 

[Convallaria majalis]

Don't punish the behavior you want to see. Friends of mine have freaked out on their boyfriends for doing the things they wanted because they had to ask (buying flowers, profile picture changing, nothing of consequence).

 

[Vibe_Guy]

What are your tips and tricks to train your manservant girlies?

Not a girlie, but if you leave me alone in the house too long I'll fuck up the carpet and tear up the couch. Don't take it personally was just bored.

 

[dcss]

Diddy ahh thread

 

[Azure05]

What are your tips and tricks to train your manservant girlies?

Give him cheese

 

[Local Farmer]

She does this to me but uses a monkey wrench to beat me, I love her so much

 

[glioblastoma multiforme]

How do you train a manservant that you don't need to use this many bowls to cook:


You can make this dish using 2 bowls max.

Also, leaving empty packets in cupboard. Just why?