The way handmaidens and trans allys support these people, the geniune ones, it makes me surprised they haven't found themselves stuck in an abusive relationship.
I think most handmaidens / allies come from a place of lack of knowledge, less from "true actual support". At least that's what happened to me (and I've read similar stories on here).
I was a handmaiden at first because I am a supporter of gay rights and GNC (lack of support from the latter as a kid/teen made me empathize especially) and for the longest time trans people where in the same bucket for me. People who just "were born a little different" and I believed the story they might have gotten the wrong set of hormones during pregnancy so they'd have a brain that was wired more like the other sex, which results in dysphoria. By now I of course know dysphoria is more likely connected to some other form of mental illness and there's no such thing as "other gender brain".
I assumed all trans people where just sad little disabled globs (and I entertained their delusions because I thought it'd make them happy so it's the right thing to do. I never thought of them of the other sex ever though, just mentally disabled), until I've started to see more and more pop up online who also behaved absolutely ridiculous.
I grew up on trans people wanting to blend in at any cost and keeping their head low. Seeing so many pop up felt weird, and back then I asked "Isn't it weird that there are so many now, if it's supposed to be this rare condition? Like, aren't a lot of them doing it possibly for other reasons, other than real dysphoria?" I got shot down from trans people because it was deemed transphobic that I even wondered about this, completely innocently at that point.
The fact that not even asking questions was acceptable kind of rubbed me the wrong way (If you're *actually* looking for a solution to this ailment, you should seek answers, not silence) and I went down the rabbit hole, finally thinking about the trans issue in earnest for the first time and basically came to the same conclusions that are being brought up here frequently.
Trans doesn't belong into the GNC or gay group, it's a mental illness that works as a protection for porn addicted and disgusting men and attention seekers, an alluring trend that does lasting damage to our children, because they misunderstand that teenagehood means questioning and getting aware of your sex.
