Speaking as a guy who's had his share of punk/goth/emo/scene girlfriends in highschool, I can promise you you weren't exactly missing a whole lot. Each and every one of them had some amount of mental/emotional baggage to where being around them for a fuck was just infinitely way more trouble than it was ever worth. Lo and behold, a lot of these girls of the 2000s more often than not became the nutty feminists and circus freaks we have today.
Jessi Slaughter was the rule as opposed to the exception concerning these girls is what I'm trying to say