In my experience it's paradoxically even harder for BPDs who might otherwise be decent or reasonable people. If there was some magical cure that instantly gave them insight, they would implode from the shame of ruining their and other peoples' lives. The lack of insight is a defensive mechanism, the truth that they are and were the problem and not the rest of the world is too much to stomach. Even an 'ideal' BPD patient who genuinely wants to break the pattern is still enormously difficult to deal with in this respect.
Cluster B personality disorders and autism spectrum disorders have so much overlap that psychiatrists frequently misdiagnose autistic women with having Borderline Personality Disorder. There’s also a fair amount of comorbidity between the two, like Autism and Bipolar Disorder. There is a reason, unfortunately, that people think autistic individuals don’t have empathy.
Look up ‘grey rock’ technique. Become a master of it. Enjoy freedom from narcs
bpd = "borderline personality disorder". Bipolar isn't cluster B - it's a mood disorder.
I always found the lack of moral consideration in therapy highly disturbing. Like, they prioritize basically getting the patient to trust them, so they circlejerk them to hell and back regardless of what they say and never really impose any kind of judgments on the things they say. This means that if you say something like "so I cheated on my husband and lied to my kids about it and divorced them" at no point are they going to point out how unethical this is nor try to encourage you to find in yourself the sort of ethical sensibilities and foresight that prevents behaviour like this (or prompts you to try to redeem yourself). It just seems weird that such a value-laden field is so utterly divorced from considerations like moral philosophy.
Guess I should be thankful the one I had just did a clean break and fucked off.
Skill issue. Drop the difficulty or get good.
Did she just dump you out of nowhere? BPD's are known to "discard" their partners like that.
Childhood trauma usually causes BPD, moreso in women. They do drugs and act impulsively to cope.
That's the monkey's paw version of lowering the difficulty.
Nope, got her to move in with me beforehand after being together couple of months. There was some family drama of hers (her sister husband was caught cheating) so she decided to stop the relationship because I wasn't living up to her standard of being pussywhipped enough. She did it face to face at least.
They really should be exterminated. Their only value is as a lab rat and/or organ transplants. The mold on expired bread has more worth.
