Makeup! Clothes! "Girly stuff" thread

[Fialovy]

I honestly never saw the appeal of designer purses. I do dig Sakroots purses though, the ones I had lasted a long time. My current one is just starting to fall apart, but I'm not quite ready to get rid of it yet since it still does its job. Not to mention the funky patterns which I love.

 

[admiral]

Posting this here because people treat their babies like fashion accessories.

I fucking hate those little bow and flower headbands that people put on newborn baby girls' heads. It's a hairless little baby blob, it doesn't need to look feminine. Are you really so worried that someone's gonna think your baby's a boy? All babies look the same, male or female, putting the bow just makes it look stupid. I know this hatred is irrational, but somehow every time I see one of those babies with a stupid bow or flower headband on its bald little head I just know that the mother is insufferable. It's like giving your baby earrings- why the fuck are you bothering? It's a baby, not an accessory, you're just covering it in unnecessary shit for no reason except to make it look pretty. Babies are already cute, they don't need flowers and earrings.

This is the only exception I will tolerate:

 

[Speakeasy Electric]

Hey ladies I’ve recently come to the realization that all of my clothes are old and unflattering, and that I have very little understanding as to what looks good on me. I don’t have natural fashion instincts and want to dress better.

I have been researching ways to dress stylishly easily, like knowing body type and what is flattering, knowing my “seasonal coloring” (which actually makes a lot of sense to me) great information on seasonal color here and what my personal style objectives are, i.e I want to look casual but put together. I need to be comfortable physically in the clothes. I need to be able to move around easily. Etc. I have tried to dive into Kibbe a bit though I’m not sure I 100% get it.

So I’m starting to understand what should work for me and at least some guidelines,(soft summer, soft dramatic in kibbe I think, etc) which is helpful, and I’m also starting to see what to avoid, which is even more helpful. Now I need help piecing it all together.

What would you do? Create a Pinterest board of outfits that would look good and try to find pieces similar? How do I fuss out what is good quality (stitching, fabric quality etc)? What fabrics should I look for and what fabrics should I run from? How on earth do I know if something fits correctly? Has anyone used the guidelines I mentioned above to figure out what looks good? How do you personally know what looks good on you?

Where do I shop? Is it a bad idea to buy clothes online before I have a true understanding of it? What online places do you like to shop? I’m lucky enough to live by several large malls/outlet malls etc, so do I just need to spend a bunch of time physically in store trying stuff on? Are there even stores in malls that have good enough quality clothes anymore?

I would appreciate any insight. I’m not on a shoe-string budget or anything so I am willing to shell out some cash for things that are nice/fit well/will last. I feel a bit in over my head. No one taught me this kind of thing and as I said it does not come naturally to me.

 

[CaseyTatumm]

I ordered magnetic lashes/eyeliner. I am super excited. Tell me you have them and they don't suck!

I have some, don’t wear them often but I do like them!

 

[one_time_user]

I have some, don’t wear them often but I do like them!

I got them and do love them! I had 4 different people at work and the bank ask me about them the first time I wore them and they all got them. I had to order clear eyeliner too because I don't always want black eyeliner. I was surprised by how LONG they are and had to trim them a bit for day wear

 

[Fialovy]

Does anyone remember Club Libby Lu? It was a place that was in malls for preteen girls where they could get their hair and make up done and I remember making your own lotion. I remember going to one when I was around 12 for some drama competition where I had to go downstate with some of the girls on the drama team. It was pretty fun from what I remember. I looked it up and they went out of business in 2009

I can't be the only one who remembers this from my childhood.

 

[Polexia Aphrodisia]

Does anyone remember Club Libby Lu? It was a place that was in malls for preteen girls where they could get their hair and make up done and I remember making your own lotion. I remember going to one when I was around 12 for some drama competition where I had to go downstate with some of the girls on the drama team. It was pretty fun from what I remember. I looked it up and they went out of business in 2009

I can't be the only one who remembers this from my childhood.

All the popular girls at school had their birthday parties there, but as expected from someone on kiwi farms i was not invited to the popular girls' parties.

I was supposed to go for a girl scouts event thing but my parents were against it. Didn't want me getting makeup put on and a little stuffed dog in a purse at the tender age of X. Or maybe it was just too expensive. Either way I was pissed.

 

[Almalexia]

Sephora has a sale till tomorrow but I can't find anything that excites me. Beauty moves so fast and is so gimmicky now, and yes I realize I sound like an out-of-touch old lady. I can't keep track of all the new "brands" that are just random social media influencers and black people slapping their names onto some cheap Chinese pigment and charging crazy amounts for fancy packaging. In terms of serious products, I can't justify dropping the cash on a Pat McGrath palette even though they all look beautiful. I miss pre-2020 events, dressing up, and not wearing a mask that covers half my face.

 

[Vingle]

Sephora has a sale till tomorrow but I can't find anything that excites me.

Don't buy anything then, it's common for chains to turn up their prices before black Friday. And give you the illusion of an discount, and not an actual real one. Sephora is known to do shitty things (fake reviews and stuff), so that's right up their ally. I really don't get the appeal of Sephora.

I realize I sound like an out-of-touch old lady

You don't, you just have your tried and tested products. There's no need to change up something that works.
If it's something cheaper and of same quality, well yea. You can do the switch, but otherwise its just evil corporations whispering in your ear to consoom.

I just use the discounts to save on products I already use. I would buy them at full-price anyway, so the discounts is whatever.

 

[Almalexia]

There's no need to change up something that works.
If it's something cheaper and of same quality, well yea. You can do the switch, but otherwise its just evil corporations whispering in your ear to consoom.

Totally agree. I'm passing on Sephora for now, but catch me at the all-November-long Deciem 23% off sale because The Ordinary and Niod products work and I use them year-round. Their founder Brandon Truaxe sadly lost his mind and had a Terry Davis-esque decline. But he really was a visionary in terms of making evidence-based product info accessible to the everywoman and pricing powerful actives low enough that you could experiment and find what worked best for your skin without spending a fortune. RIP brother.

 

[FarmerKhourtney]

Hi, this is my first time here with a girly question

Over this past year I’ve started to lose my eyebrows. They were previously nice and thick. I had bloodwork and all that and there was nothing outstanding which would explain it. The dermatologist suspected seborrheic dermatitis and suggested I use steroids for a bit
It helped my skin calm down but my eyebrows aren’t really coming back. I tried rapid brow and it gave me very angry skin
Any tips to help them grow back in? I hate penciling them because I feel like a clown

 

[one_time_user]

you can try rogaine or a derma pen if after a few months they don't start to grow back (it could be temporary)

 

[goodgrief]

Totally agree. I'm passing on Sephora for now, but catch me at the all-November-long Deciem 23% off sale because The Ordinary and Niod products work and I use them year-round. Their founder Brandon Truaxe sadly lost his mind and had a Terry Davis-esque decline. But he really was a visionary in terms of making evidence-based product info accessible to the everywoman and pricing powerful actives low enough that you could experiment and find what worked best for your skin without spending a fortune. RIP brother.

I just ordered the aha+bha peel again. I went through 3 bottles in the past. I always used it on the day I'd do a green clay mask. Nothing like that combo to make pores appear cleaner and smaller before they go back to their shenanigans and you have to do it again.
And I ordered pycnogenol and the resveratrol+ferulic acid again too. My skin never looked better than when I used those antioxidants.

 

[Vingle]

Hi, this is my first time here with a girly question

Over this past year I’ve started to lose my eyebrows. They were previously nice and thick. I had bloodwork and all that and there was nothing outstanding which would explain it. The dermatologist suspected seborrheic dermatitis and suggested I use steroids for a bit
It helped my skin calm down but my eyebrows aren’t really coming back. I tried rapid brow and it gave me very angry skin
Any tips to help them grow back in? I hate penciling them because I feel like a clown

you can try rogaine or a derma pen if after a few months they don't start to grow back (it could be temporary)

Do both.

A Randomized Evaluator Blinded Study of Effect of Microneedling in Androgenetic Alopecia: A Pilot Study

The effect is just poking holes in the skin = better penetration. Nothing to do with hormones.

 

[Cheesegirl78]

Sephora has a sale till tomorrow but I can't find anything that excites me. Beauty moves so fast and is so gimmicky now, and yes I realize I sound like an out-of-touch old lady. I can't keep track of all the new "brands" that are just random social media influencers and black people slapping their names onto some cheap Chinese pigment and charging crazy amounts for fancy packaging. In terms of serious products, I can't justify dropping the cash on a Pat McGrath palette even though they all look beautiful. I miss pre-2020 events, dressing up, and not wearing a mask that covers half my face.

Pat McGrath is good, but I think it's overpriced. Look on her website, sometimes she has great sales.

I tend to stick with more established brands, Estee Lauder, MAC, and so on, although I do love Hourglass. Huda Beauty is one I like as well, though she gets shit on by the Reddit bunch because she puts her eyes on her shadow palettes and doesn't use men in her advertising.

If you want videos aimed more at makeup for older women, Hot n Flashy is a good one to start with, I feel she's very thorough.

And don't worry about trends, do what YOU like and are comfortable with.

 

[MysticLord]

Hi, this is my first time here with a girly question

Over this past year I’ve started to lose my eyebrows. They were previously nice and thick. I had bloodwork and all that and there was nothing outstanding which would explain it. The dermatologist suspected seborrheic dermatitis and suggested I use steroids for a bit
It helped my skin calm down but my eyebrows aren’t really coming back. I tried rapid brow and it gave me very angry skin
Any tips to help them grow back in? I hate penciling them because I feel like a clown

Long term anti-inflammatory steroid use can have some pretty nasty effects. It makes you more vulnerable to infections*, and your body ups the inflammation to deal with it. If you have to stop using them, you are stuck with an elevated immune response for up to a few months until it returns to normal.

I was prescribed 5% coal tar shampoo for seborrheic dermatitis (actually to rule out a fungal infection) and it's working. Ask your doctor if there are other things they can rule out before you accept a lifetime dependence on steroids.

That aside, you could get eyebrows tattooed on. Be very, very cautious and look for a medical tattoo artist that has photos of their results available and maybe lets you contact previous patients. This is going on your face, and it's very expensive to remove.

* Google "kevin randleman mrsa" if you want to cry, but then again he rolled around on a mat with sweaty dudes several hours each day for a living (as an MMA fighter) so, uhhh, avoid that.

 

[MarvelousMess]

Posting this here because people treat their babies like fashion accessories.

I fucking hate those little bow and flower headbands that people put on newborn baby girls' heads. It's a hairless little baby blob, it doesn't need to look feminine. Are you really so worried that someone's gonna think your baby's a boy? All babies look the same, male or female, putting the bow just makes it look stupid. I know this hatred is irrational, but somehow every time I see one of those babies with a stupid bow or flower headband on its bald little head I just know that the mother is insufferable. It's like giving your baby earrings- why the fuck are you bothering? It's a baby, not an accessory, you're just covering it in unnecessary shit for no reason except to make it look pretty. Babies are already cute, they don't need flowers and earrings.

This is the only exception I will tolerate:
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I don’t always mind them, but there’s a time and place and size (because some are the size of the poor baby’s head).. plus, many people do t know they are a choking hazard if left on while in the car seat.

Over this past year I’ve started to lose my eyebrows. They were previously nice and thick. I had bloodwork and all that and there was nothing outstanding which would explain it. The dermatologist suspected seborrheic dermatitis and suggested I use steroids for a bit
It helped my skin calm down but my eyebrows aren’t really coming back. I tried rapid brow and it gave me very angry skin
Any tips to help them grow back in? I hate penciling them because I feel like a clown

Try using a serum with peptides in it. Even one made for the face as long as the other ingredients are decent should help. A side effect of strong peptides/tri peptides is increased hair growth and that includes facial hair in women. Which probably should be a disclaimer on some face products but isn’t usually. Just put it on your brows 2x a day.

 

[Cheesegirl78]

Hi, this is my first time here with a girly question

Over this past year I’ve started to lose my eyebrows. They were previously nice and thick. I had bloodwork and all that and there was nothing outstanding which would explain it. The dermatologist suspected seborrheic dermatitis and suggested I use steroids for a bit
It helped my skin calm down but my eyebrows aren’t really coming back. I tried rapid brow and it gave me very angry skin
Any tips to help them grow back in? I hate penciling them because I feel like a clown

Have you looked into microblading?

 

[FarmerKhourtney]

I’m definitely open to the idea! I’ve seen lots of ads around here. I’m just worried about ending up with a bad stylist (?)

Have you looked into microblading?

 

[Fatal Shooting]

For my financially minded kiwis, what are your opinions on designer bags? Is "investment bag" literally just a meme, or is there an actual argument for these things? It looks like Birkins meet the definition, but I'm thinking more like a classic Chanel flap, which I've seen some arguments for gaining in value, while others say it only retains value (which is still losing value because of inflation and resell fees). Thoughts?

Rate me late but whatever.

They are a meme. Certain Chanel bags are called investments because Chanel constantly jacks up their prices so after a few years you can sell it for less than the current retail price while making your money back and possibly a small profit. To pull this off you need to keep the bag in pristine condition and hang on to all the bits and pieces that came with it, which means you'll probably barely be able to use it. Chanel are also introducing quotas and the prices are already absurdly high so if you didn't get one a couple of years ago it's probably too late. It's true that you can flip Birkins and Kellys for double what you paid as soon as you walk out of the shop, but the money you need to sink into Hermes to be offered one in the first place is going to offset any potential gains. It's also possible to scalp seasonal bags that are in high demand but you need a good eye for trends. We're in a bubble of luxury consoomerism at the moment that's being driven by new-money influencers and soundcloud rappers or whatever stupid people get famous for these days. Decadence and flashy logos are in right now, Chanel and particularly Hermes are sought after because they're exclusive status symbols. The pendulum will swing back and these things will be seen as uncouth within the next 10-15 years, quality items will retain some amount of value but they won't be as sought after. Designer stuff won't go away, it's survived changing trends before, but it's hard to predict what there will be a market for in the future.

If you get a bag that's good quality and works for you it can last your whole life if you look after it, and in that sense they can be "investments" because you can save money over the course of decades by not constantly replacing cheaper bags as they wear out. That's what luxury and designer used to mean, one per lifetime/heirloom purchases. Don't buy one you don't love because you think you can literally make money off it.