Do You Want Kids? - General "Have Kids!" Sperging Thread [for or against that sentiment]

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Yes.

Just admit you're a cat lady in waiting (or cat boi - not catboi, necessarily) if you dont
 
In all honesty, I do. While I'm not great with kids, I want the bloodline to continue. I owe that much to my parents, at least.

That, and I do genuinely want to be a parent. Can't really say I'm in a good position to do so though.
 
I feel like this is a very polarizing issue for most people, everyone has a really strong reasoning for their position. Whether it be religion, obligation to race, biological imperatives, nihilism, strong hatred of children, strong hatred of self, etc. Everyone has a really strong position, and usually has a pretty strongly negative opinion of the opposite group.

My answer is much more mundane, I just don't want kids. I have the means and ability to be a good father (at least much better than the majority of losers out there), I have no genetic issues, I don't particularly like/hate them, I'm not nihilistic. I just do not have a compulsion to have children. I sometimes think about the cool parts of being a parent, like teaching them to ride a bike for the first time and think I might enjoy. But I realize that would be a shitty reason to have a kid, akin to adopting a puppy for a selfie and then promptly neglecting it. I don't feel a desire to engage in the entire process of raising a child.

Idk, I think I fall somewhere on the autism/sociopath/some sort of socially maligned scale. Not bad enough to stick out or be dysfunctional, but just dysfunctional enough to lack some basic impulses most people have, like reproduction.
 
No. I really do not like kids at all. As someone who didn't have a very good childhood, I don't think I be a good parent. I am pretty much happy for who I am. I just have cats who are more like my children.

YEs, my childhood was not great. It be best if I explain that issue in PMs than here.
 
Yes, of course. I would like to have children of my own. Because of that, I must sort out the economic and meta issues I am having first.
 
I don't think I'd make a good parent, I probably wouldn't be a bad one but the first two years are not something I'd be good at.


Besides have you seen all this shit going on in the world? The LGBT community wants children, the public schools are Turing them into little rioting commies, every day that goes by it feels like there's no point in bringing more into the world.



I've gone and depressed myself
 
The whole point of having kids would be to have truly loyal people around you, ie the family unit. However as things are in the world now family doesn't seem as a guarantee for this any longer. So, I don't think I want kids. I might change my mind in the future if I meet a really good woman. I might just as well choose renunciation of society though, to the extent practically possible for me.
 
Yes, but it's pretty unlikely to happen considering the overall economic situation in my neck of the woods and being quite asocial. If anything, I'd bet the most likely scenario would be finding someone who wants an anchor baby inside themselves and wants a citizenship in a first-world country via a sham marriage.
 
My problem is less whether I want kids or whether I have the means so much as the woman I'd want to have my kids. I'm fine with being a father but I want a good mother for them and those can be hard to find.
 
Shadfan666xxx000 dijo:
My problem is less whether I want kids or whether I have the means so much as the woman I'd want to have my kids. I'm fine with being a father but I want a good mother for them and those can be hard to find.
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Same here. I need to get myself out of debt, which will happen within the next year.

That's the easy part. The hard part: finding someone trustworthy. I don't care so much about the religion, as much as I care for family values. Too many sluts, drug addicts, and all-around problem women. It's a motherfucking struggle.
 
I kinda wanna start a traditional old-fashioned based Judeo-Christian household, but a big thing stopping me is that I don't want to risk passing my autism genes to a new generation and potentially raising a retard low-function kid. Any other kiwis in the same boat?
(also I'm a fucking chink too)
 
I don't like antinatalists because they tend to be sanctimonious grandstanders, but I get the sentiment. Without a sense of purpose in life or belief in a higher power, the day-to-day grind can feel like an aimless drag. This is a non-issue for people with a clear goal in life, but for the rest, it can be a struggle to find something worth living for.

I'm not particularly eaten up by the pointlessness in it all, but I can't deny that I live life like I'm just waiting to die. I'd like to think if push came to shove, I could step up and be a father, but I can't shake the feeling that I'd be doing my family a disservice with how directionless I am in general. It also doesn't help that the path the world is heading in seems to punish people for speaking up for their own values, so I'm not even sure that's the kind of environment I would want to raise a kid in anyway.
 
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I kinda wanna start a traditional old-fashioned based Judeo-Christian household, but a big thing stopping me is that I don't want to risk passing my autism genes to a new generation and potentially raising a retard low-function kid. Any other kiwis in the same boat?
(also I'm a fucking chink too)
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I'm in the same boat too. Plus, it doesn't help that all the attractive girls I've seen in the last 7 years are kind of airheaded, even the ones at church. I'm not looking for some super genius lady, but a lady with a sense of self respect and taste would be nice. I could just date a bunch of randos just to get female attention, but I would lowkey kinda hate that since the vast majority of them I know I have nothing in common with past my faith. I don't know how some dudes have such low standards for a woman that they date any woman that's pretty with zero or little consideration for who she is.
 
Could be a GenXer and millennial thing but when I realized just how many women absolutely resent or straight up hate their own children and the amount of time and resources they consume, I was quite glad not to have turned any of them into mothers. So many women secretly just hate kids and the burden they bring. You have no idea how your mommy-wife feels about them until the table is set and the die has been cast. You're playing house and suddenly mommy can't hide it anymore with boxwine, pills or faking post-partum. No re-rolls here.

Lotta y'all have tradcon blinders on. They feel good... I used to wear them too, but unless you live in a mosque with a quarry out back they aren't going to save you from pure domestic hell.
 
I think I'd be a good father, but I have no interest in having children...which is good given the extra complexity in me having them. My stance on this has never changed, but my reasons for not wanting them have evolved as I've gotten older.

I will say I don't feel any obligation to my name or blood line like some here do. I am not a slave to those who came before me and they don't factor into my decisions about things like this.
SilentDuck dijo:
Lotta y'all have tradcon blinders on.
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A lot of folks online who dislike the left go too far in the other direction. A 20-30 year old tradcon is honestly pretty pathetic, it reeks of limited life experience and resentment.
 
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