Ahh I see we're talking about Bibi and Chantal again. Just call me a sadist, zoophiliac, and necrophiliac with the way I gotta beat this dead horse.
Anyways...how on earth Bibi escaped so...unscathed...from Chantal's greasy sausage-fingered clutches is nothing less than astounding to me. They dated, what, seven years? Even spending
one year in close proximity to someone with a personality disorder can take
years of therapy to undo the damage to your soul. And Bibi seemed to walk away without a scratch. Incredible.
Now, granted, Chantal really wasn't as bad back then as she is now. But I think it can be argued that this was
because of Bibi's presence. Bibi was calm, emotionally stable, had a job, was dependable, cooked and cleaned, washed himself daily, and was content to watch his anime and play his video games in between bites of homemade peanut stew. In short, Bibi was a
respectable adult. Unlike Peetz (loser shut-in with no friends), Nader (rabid, feral, drug addict always 24 hours away from homelessness), or Salah (failson, romance scammer, worst passport in the world). And Chantal, like every other BPD nightmare that's an empty husk with no real personality of their own, always takes on the characteristics of those she dates. Also, unlike the Bummer Triplets, Chantal couldn't feel superior to Bibi, or that he owed everything to her, and this is still reflected in the way she talks about him now.
The theory is that people with BPD are forever in search of the steady, stable love they were/feel they were denied in childhood, and will forever idealize those who fill this role in an adult relationship. (Not that they have any skills is actually keeping these people around long...) I really think that her time with Bibi was the most stable period of Chantal's life, and with his influence, she was the closest she's ever been to being, like, a semi-functional adult.
Obviously, Chantal still had serious issues while with Bibi, and no doubt this was the worst period of
his life, but I really think she has a lot of nostalgia for this time. People with BPD have the coping mechanisms of a toddler (this is not an exaggeration, their emotional regulation is stunted at the same level's of a very small child), and so need to externalize and push out all their emotions onto someone else to stabilize, ideally someone steady and stable. (Hence why they chase romantic attachment that satisfies the fulfillment of a parental bond.)
Lots of people here say Bibi would grey rock her when she'd throw tantrums. I think it's a bit deeper than that. And here's where it's obvious why Chantal (and everyone else here) holds Bibi in such higher esteem than the diseased livestock she dated after him. Chantal handles her emotions like a toddler, and Bibi was firm on one of the most important lessons toddlers must be taught for healthy psychological development:
having big emotions doesn't change the outcome of a situation.
I'm not saying I think Bibi and Chantal would sit there while she'd cry fatly and he'd soothe her retarded soul. Instead, Bibi held his boundaries and sense of self without resorting to the nasty sort of tactics she uses, and never reflected Chantal's awful behavior back at her, and this stability made her less...dysfunctional. She could scream, tantrum, fart, binge all she wanted, it wouldn't work, and he was gonna continue to do what he was gonna do, WITHOUT stooping to her level with the drugged up pointless drama, or giving into her binges and joining her, or driving to go get her Syrian happy meals with a toy grenade inside.
Guys, I really cannot emphasize how fucking hard it is to be around a cluster B in such close proximity for even 1/10th the amount of time Bibi was around Chantal without completely losing yourself to keep the peace. I don't want to give off the impression that she could be considered, uh,
not a mentally ill slob while they were together, or that Bibi was some kind of saint. But anyone who's had the hideous misfortune of spending time with those with BPD will recognize in Chantal the sudden, public, violent downward spiral they have when their stabilizing force finally has enough of their bullshit and leaves them. I don't think Chantal was actually aware of how much Bibi was actually doing for her, but she's certainly aware of how much more...normal...that time in her life was.
So yeah. The reason that Chantal (and us) sees Bibi with so much reverence is because she's damn aware that she was the best possible version of herself with him (because he was doing most of the work for her, keep in mind). She's way, WAY too far gone to ever find herself in another relationship like that, but I do think some of her "things will just suddenly click into place and I'll get better" mindset is because she's unconsciously looking to find herself in such a stabilizing relationship again, because somebody else has to do her emotional stability for her and then everything will just sort of magically...be easier again (because someone else is doing all icky hard work for her).
I dunno. Maybe compared to everyone else in Chantal's cursed universe, maybe he is a saintly Mister Rogers-esque figure. Either way, out of all the side characters, I think his role in why Chantal is the way she is today isn't given enough credit. I give him 5/5 stars, a certified fresh tomato.
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