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- 2 de Ago, 2021
It is very well established that Chris has no respect for or understanding of boundaries. At first glance it's easy to argue that it's just autism and poor socialization but there are far too many instances where Chris does things he should by all means know are straight up wrong. Just look at how he's repeatedly groped people despite being strongly rebuked by multiple different individuals, or *God*, even fucking Sonic Sez from that 90s cartoon saying touching people in ways they don't like being touched is wrong.
Chris understands hard boundaries, he just doesn't understand soft, unspoken, or continuing boundaries. If you tell him "don't touch me", he will not touch you for a certain period of time until the words have faded and his immediate wants take precedence. Then you have to tell him again, in order to renew the precedence of your wishes above his.
i.e. any boundaries he faces have to be immediate and visible now. Any consequences he will suffer need to be now. Any rewards to encourage positive acts need to be now. If these things are not immediate and apparent, his ego and wants will take over because those are *always* there.
This is why it's so easy to get Chris to change his behavior temporarily if you manipulate him correctly, while still being impossible to get him to make any permanent or long-lasting changes. This is why he doesn't keep his promises, even though he *intends* to keep them while he's making them (and thus why he feels he is making them honestly, and when he doesn't make good on his promises, it's because the situation changed).
When Chris says he cares about someone, he's being honest. He really does care about that person. That's why he's so hurt when you tell him he doesn't. He really does care. Until five minutes later when he stops caring because something else has his attention. He wasn't *lying*, he just is a creature of the now. The reason Chris seems to only care about Chris is because Chris is the only person who is part of Chris' attention 24/7.
This is also why Chris keeps falling for the same stupid ween shit over and over again. He can't stop touching the hot stove when there's cookies on it. Any learning he makes happens only gradually, after many many harsh lessons, and never completely.