Why do mothers hate their daughters so much?

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My mother just screamed at me , threw something at me (I was too scared to really register what it was). I hid in the bathroom and she kept screaming and pounding on the door. I was literally curled up on the floor sobbing like a small child. I literally feel like a little kid when my mom screams at me.
I literally just told her I was busy doing chores and shit at home while she was busy at work and she imploded. She makes everything about herself. How I am the one responsible for making her blood sugar high, stressing her out, making her life miserable. I hate it. She threatened to throw me out of the house, knowing full well that I don't have anywhere else to go.

I would always call or text my ex after fart episodes like these and he would usually talk me through and get me to stop crying. and these past months have been painful without him comforting me after these incidents.
 
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Mothers don't hate their daughters.
Your mother just hates you.

It sucks and sounds really terrible, but the best thing you can do is leave. If you're an adult it's easier, get yourself a job get your own place (even if it's a shitty one) and then start making a life for yourself. If you're underage consider moving in with family, or at worst stick it out until you finish school and then move out. You don't need to have horrible people in your life even if they're family.
 
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Mental illness, low self esteem, and the fact it's easier to take it out on someone you have authority over. I had a lot of issues with my biological mother and it's severely affected me, even as an adult. I think my mom has a lot of untreated mental issues that have either gotten ignored or she's just too complacent in how shitty our situation was when I was a child. When I moved to Korea to be with my husband, all hell broke loose. Since I've moved countries, I only contact her once every few months to let her know that I'm still alive. Very grateful that my in-laws see me as their own daughter and treat me better than my biological family ever has.
 
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Please get off the computer and take care of your shit. I understand this is some of form of venting you impulsively typed up in a very vulnerable state but the forum is not your ex. If you get kicked out you should be aware of the women shelters near your area.

Also I suspect you sound fat. I don't know why though.
 
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Just move out. Walk on eggshells until you're ready. It should be a top priority if this shit is happening. The worst decisions people make in life are ones they are forced to make. If you get kicked out then you'll be desperate and move somewhere you can't afford or move in with someone you shouldn't be living with. I don't mean take the first thing that comes along but prioritize finding a place that works.

Then you'll be free to say or do whatever you want and when she blames her blood sugar on you, you don't have to take it and say "cry about it, fatty".

Or just keep doing what you're doing and be miserable.

I'm assuming you're not a minor. If you are then you shouldn't be here
 
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Bargain Bin Laden dijo:
I’m sorry to hear that you’re going through this. It sounds like a very difficult situation. You don’t deserve to be treated that way. It’s important to remember that you are not responsible for your mother’s behavior or emotions. You have the right to feel safe and respected in your own home.
If you feel comfortable, you might consider talking to someone about what you’re going through. There are many resources available to help people who are dealing with abusive situations. You can contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) for confidential support and information. You can also check out this video 1 for some tips on how to deal with abusive parents.
Please take care of yourself and stay safe.
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He rapes but he saves.
 
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Maskull dijo:
I literally just told her I was busy doing chores and shit at home while she was busy at work and she imploded. She makes everything about herself. How I am the one responsible for making her blood sugar high, stressing her out, making her life miserable. I hate it. She threatened to throw me out of the house, knowing full well that I don't have anywhere else to go.
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I'm just a retard online, so take what I say with a grain of salt, but your situation is distinctly similar to my sisters.

Google "narcissist family dinamic" and it should make your mother's behavior more clear to you, and also most likely break your heart more than it already is.

What I'm getting at is you are most likely the scapegoat. But if you are rewarded for falling in line and disproportionately punished for being "bad" by your mom's standards, you are the "golden child"

Both roles are hard, if you are the scapegoat you've got the hardest job of bearing the brunt of her abuse. The only silver lining is that when you grow up, you are least likely to be further followed once you break contact with your mom.

This is abuse, you are not crazy no matter how much she tries to make it your fault. You are in a bad situation that few commenters on here can truly grasp. Find out which narcissist type your mom is so you can form a good defensive strategy.

I wish you the best OP. Your mother's immaturity is not your fault. You didn't fail her, she failed you. Take care.

One more thing: you will never be loved by your mom. I am sorry but it's true. Narcissists like her cannot truly love, only conditionally. The faster you accept that and find a loving person the better.
 
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