Weight Loss Update 1/21/18 - We've imagined her binges perfectly

[Ambaby]

So...She's been "super mean" to Becky when she binges because Becky tells her no, and she says it's like she's possessed and it's not "who she is". I think Becky is starting to realize how crazy and tiring she is, even when she started crying about her childhood and making even more excuses (as always), Becky looked annoyed. Why would anyone get into a relationship with this womanchild who's at death's door and refuses to get help? I will never understand.

Edit: "I'm like...not hungry sometimes. I don't know why." I love how bewildered she is at the concept of not wanting to eat 24/7.

If you listen after she says Becky tells her no, she quickly says, under her breath: "cuz I don't have a car". Can you picture that? Before I heard the car bit, my mental picture was of Becky encouraging AL to slow down her eating during a meal or snack at home. But, if it is because of lack of a vehicle, AL was probably forcibly trying to get Becky into her car to take her out to eat! Probably shouting at her from the passenger seat for her to get her ass into the car! Hey, Becky: RUN!

 

[vodka]

If she's proud of 1-2 binges per week week - how many did she have when Big Ham was 'completely' off the rails? That's a scary thought.

Well she did say that she was binging multiple times a week, "even twice a day sometimes" so I think at one point her food intake only came from binges.

 

[GORL]

If you listen after she says Becky tells her no, she quickly says, under her breath: "cuz I don't have a car". Can you picture that? Before I heard the car bit, my mental picture was of Becky encouraging AL to slow down her eating during a meal or snack at home. But, if it is because of lack of a vehicle, AL was probably forcibly trying to get Becky into her car to take her out to eat! Probably shouting at her from the passenger seat for her to get her ass into the car! Hey, Becky: RUN!

Honestly, I've wondered before if this is why AL won't drive a car. She knows she won't be able to control herself. Every fast food place would be at her fingertips so easily.

 

[Bitchinista]

I know she's said in the past that she refuses to talk to a therapist because "it doesn't work for her." Well, if you go into it with the mindset that it's going to be a quick cure, or a cure at all, then she's already set herself up for failure. Therapy could be so helpful for her as a place where she can unload the ugliest parts of herself to someone who will be completely unbiased and free of judgment. Hell, it is their damn job to listen to your feelings and validate your thoughts and help you sift through all of the shit happening in your mind. They are not the bad guys.

She goes on and on about her depression, and she even has days where it's so bad that she cannot function. Speaking to a therapist once a week could be a source of comfort to her. It's not meant to be a for-sure cure to mental illness but for fuck's sake, if she's so miserable all the time from her mental and physical state, why wouldn't she do anything to bring herself some relief?

She could find a licensed clinical psychologist at a very reasonable price, sometimes their full fee is as low as $50 - 70 per session. She spends so much money on shit, she could easily carve room into her budget on something that makes her feel better. Psychologists/licensed therapists are not MD's and cannot prescribe medications, so they won't be pushing her to get drugged up, which I'm guessing is something that scares her.

She showed us a bit of honesty in this video. I wish she'd tell us the REAL reason why she won't see an MD for her physical health and won't try a therapist in order to help her feel better mentally... I'd love an honest explanation and not the bullshit "It doesn't work/I can't afford it"

 

[Fatblackpussy]

I'm loving the trainwreck

 

[497]

Honestly, I've wondered before if this is why AL won't drive a car. She knows she won't be able to control herself. Every fast food place would be at her fingertips so easily.

Doesn't she have a Dollar Tree and McDonalds within walking distance? If it was that desperate she could walk (seriously, she can walk, we've seen her walk down the block) or get take out- she's ordered pizza mexican take out before.

 

[Malibougie]

I was wishing for a binge video, but now I am more curious to see a binge tantrum. I would love to have Becky or Eric film what a mess that must have looked like. Hungry, Angry Amber is the stuff my bad dreams are made of and that would be awesome to behold. Becky didn’t downplay it when Amber was saying how mean she was. It must have been nasty.

 

[Octomet]

Has Al tried Overeaters Anonymous? Foodie Beauty finally making her way to a meeting had me wondering about this. Especially since they're BFFs on Facebook.
Apparently they have meetings around KY, but you can also do it online or over the phone.

 

[Dr.Research]

I know she's said in the past that she refuses to talk to a therapist because "it doesn't work for her." Well, if you go into it with the mindset that it's going to be a quick cure, or a cure at all, then she's already set herself up for failure. Therapy could be so helpful for her as a place where she can unload the ugliest parts of herself to someone who will be completely unbiased and free of judgment. Hell, it is their damn job to listen to your feelings and validate your thoughts and help you sift through all of the shit happening in your mind. They are not the bad guys.

She goes on and on about her depression, and she even has days where it's so bad that she cannot function. Speaking to a therapist once a week could be a source of comfort to her. It's not meant to be a for-sure cure to mental illness but for fuck's sake, if she's so miserable all the time from her mental and physical state, why wouldn't she do anything to bring herself some relief?

She could find a licensed clinical psychologist at a very reasonable price, sometimes their full fee is as low as $50 - 70 per session. She spends so much money on shit, she could easily carve room into her budget on something that makes her feel better. Psychologists/licensed therapists are not MD's and cannot prescribe medications, so they won't be pushing her to get drugged up, which I'm guessing is something that scares her.

She showed us a bit of honesty in this video. I wish she'd tell us the REAL reason why she won't see an MD for her physical health and won't try a therapist in order to help her feel better mentally... I'd love an honest explanation and not the bullshit "It doesn't work/I can't afford it"

Some licensed psychologists can prescribe medications. It varies by state. But Kentucky is a state where a psychologist can't give out meds so it's kinda moot.

She could also possibly get treatment for cheaper. If she was honest and laid all her damage out to the right shrink (probably someone who specializes in eating disorders and/or shit childhood ) she could possible get a discount. Hell, of she took up a hard to fill spot she could get a steep discount.

But then again therapy isn't magic. And she might need to actually shop around and try different specialists out. And that's time she won't be at Cheesecake Factory.

And a small nitpick- therapist isn't a licensure term. Technically Becky could be her therapist and it wouldn't be untrue.

 

[666EVE666]

Has Al tried Overeaters Anonymous? Foodie Beauty finally making her way to a meeting had me wondering about this. Especially since they're BFFs on Facebook.
Apparently they have meetings around KY, but you can also do it online or over the phone.

She did during Krystle-era, said she went to a meeting and hated it. There's even therapy apps/services that you can text. She's adamantly against involving people outside of her hovel in her weight loss endeavors because there's a chance they may not coddle her.

 

[Alpo_Farts36]

And yet another reason why she isn't going to be held accountable for her actions/temper tantrums! She's litruhhhhleeee like, possessed when she's in "binge mode" you guize.

 

[C3PBRO]

Check out this victim-blaming faggot in the comments;

And here I thought Becky had only been dating Amberlynn a year, turns out it's Becky's fault Amberlynn has been a massive hog her entire life.

Spoiler: Edit

Looking back at this, I guess I should add that yes, what Becky did was technically enabling. But it's obvious AL was acting like a total cunt and tearing Becky up to get her to do as she wanted, and I can't blame Becky for simply not wanting to have shit slung at her any more. I bet when it was all said and done, she caved to that binge just to heal the hurt AL had caused, and to try to forget how she'd failed AL and herself.

 

[Lunachu]

I'm finding myself rooting for Becky quite a lot. It can be hard enough to lose weight under normal circumstances, but when you're with a partner who wants to have bad foods in the quantity that Amber does it must be astronomically so. If she's managing to lose with that going on she's doing awesome.

 

[FeedMeLobsterNow]

I know she's said in the past that she refuses to talk to a therapist because "it doesn't work for her." Well, if you go into it with the mindset that it's going to be a quick cure, or a cure at all, then she's already set herself up for failure. Therapy could be so helpful for her as a place where she can unload the ugliest parts of herself to someone who will be completely unbiased and free of judgment. Hell, it is their damn job to listen to your feelings and validate your thoughts and help you sift through all of the shit happening in your mind. They are not the bad guys.

She goes on and on about her depression, and she even has days where it's so bad that she cannot function. Speaking to a therapist once a week could be a source of comfort to her. It's not meant to be a for-sure cure to mental illness but for fuck's sake, if she's so miserable all the time from her mental and physical state, why wouldn't she do anything to bring herself some relief?

She could find a licensed clinical psychologist at a very reasonable price, sometimes their full fee is as low as $50 - 70 per session. She spends so much money on shit, she could easily carve room into her budget on something that makes her feel better. Psychologists/licensed therapists are not MD's and cannot prescribe medications, so they won't be pushing her to get drugged up, which I'm guessing is something that scares her.

She showed us a bit of honesty in this video. I wish she'd tell us the REAL reason why she won't see an MD for her physical health and won't try a therapist in order to help her feel better mentally... I'd love an honest explanation and not the bullshit "It doesn't work/I can't afford it"

She can't give an honest explanation because she pretty much thinks there's nothing wrong with her personality. Depression is treatable to an extent, but since depression usually involves some sort of chemical treatment for an imbalance, she whines about taking medication. A little talking might help, but she blabs about this problem all over YouTube and you now, etc. already. For the most part people are sympathetic to her depression and offer her advice such as seeing a therapist. Problem is, Amber needs a special kind of therapist...one who can recognize and deal with a cluster b personality disorder. And here is the biggest hurdle..if she is lucky enough to land such a therapist and they do diagnose a personality disorder, this is something medication cannot fix. She is basically fucked unless she is willing to do some real work...facing what type of a person she has become. From what has been seen so far as how Amber solves her difficulties, this doesn't seem too promising.

 

[Malibougie]

I think Becky’s only saving grace here is motivation and support from the boys who seem to be doing well and reasonable with their dietary changes.

 

[CanadianCornNut]

"Eating disorder" = "I have no self control" in her mind

 

[Dozaemon]

I've never heard of a binge blackout? It's hard to imagine that she's throwing a tantrum over food, and abusing Becky to get it. But she's only done it twice goise, so it's not that bad. Eric must have been there when this all went down, and I bet he has quite the story to tell. In the meantime, Becky needs to give her an ultimatum - therapy or GTFO.

Since Becky admitted in the “Becky Opens Up” video that she’s the type of person who fights her own battles and doesn’t like recieving outside help because she feels it’s bothersome, it’s likely that she projects that onto others, and knowing AL hates therapy for various reasons (be they legitimate or not), won’t enforce that ultimatum.

Sad, but true.

 

[Long time lurker]

Well, if you go into it with the mindset that it's going to be a quick cure, or a cure at all, then she's already set herself up for failure.

Amber want a quick fix. I bet in her head she thought that buying all the crap she did for this diet was half the battle. Her latest bout of "depression" is actually her feeling frustrated because she isn't losing weight fast enough (or is losing less than Becky).
Therapy won't work for her because you have to be honest (which she won't), invested (too much work for her) and patient.

or get take out

But if she got take out, she would be able to eat it all by herself. How can she sabotage Becky with that? She needed to take Becky with her, not only to make it more tempting, but also to have someone other than herself to blame.

Mind you, I haven't watched the video yet, but from what you guys posted, Becky was blaming herself for driving Amber. Trust me, Amber blamed her too - off camera.

she caved to that binge just to heal the hurt AL had caused, and to try to forget how she'd failed AL and herself.

Amber is an abuser and gives vibes of NPD. Unless you were exposed to a narcissist, you have no idea how they can manipulate you. They'll fuck with your head until you apologize for whatever shit they did.

Edit: In the first three minutes of this video I saw a depth in Becky that I hadn't seen before. She's so out of Amber's league. She needs someone who is capable of being her equal partner and all Amber can give her is a child that needs taking care - a child who will never grow up.
Amber might be fulfilling the need Becky has of being the protector and problem solver, but having your lover being completely dependent on you is tiresome and will corrode the relationship.

 

[hailsanta777]

Long time reader, first time posting.

I love how AL tries to make a blackout an excuse for her childish tantrums. I understand for an alcoholic or a drug addict to experience "blackouts" (either during use or during withdrawal) but it's absolutely bullshit for a food addict to say they "don't remember being mean". Run Becky. RUN.

Edit: I just remembered how annoying it was when Becky was explaining how she had a Pepsi at her family's house and AL goes "I WAS SHOCKED!" She LOVES emphasizing other people's small "mistakes" to deter the attention from her HUGE consistent mistakes (and to justify her actions as well).

 

[Barbarella]

What struck me about this video is how Amber is pulling Becky into her web. She had Becky tell her childhood story, and then was “we get each other” about food, when really, they aren’t on the same level at all.

First, I’d like to know what Becky weighed before she met Amber. I think she’s gotten bigger on camera, due to their relationship.

Still, Becky was not tiny. She needed to lose a hundred pounds. But when she loses that hundred, she’s done. After Amber loses a hundred, she still has 250 to go.

The level of their eating pathology is not the same, yet Amber has convinced Becky it is.

Maybe Becky ate out of boredome as a kid, or maybe it’s all revisionist history after listening to Amber’s story and talking about weight so much. Maybe she’s just not a person who cares about it that much and would have realized it eventually. Maybe she just grew up around crap.

So Amber has convinced her they are the same, that both of their eating is disordered, and like most dangerously morbid obese people, she abuses Becky when she doesn’t get her drug. Becky is already feeling guilty and that she is like Amber, so gives in.

Anybody not so tied would have laughed and said, get your own damn food, I’m not eating and then locked themselves into a bedroom until the tantrum was over. And then realized maybe this person was not for them. But Amber has made sure Becky can’t do that now, she’s lost her power-after all, she’s no better than Amber. They need each other, they get each other.

I’m not so sure this was honesty as it was a master class on how to tie somebody to you.