I'm feeling incredibly down because of the lack of interest from men.transitioning (
self.StraightTransGirls)
submitted 17 hours ago by
Larinhas2
Sorry, I'm not sure if this is the most appropriate place, but I need to vent. I tried posting on honesttrans and couldn't."
Alright. I'm not a perfect trans woman searching for a fairytale ending. I'm a very sexual person, I really enjoy being with men and having intimate relationships. I've been on hormone replacement therapy (HRT) for 6 years, and despite taking 50mg of cyproterone acetate and using 5 pumps of estrogen gel daily over the years,
I still have a strong libido. The fact that I'm true to myself is causing me a lot of pain due to men rejecting me, to the extent that it's affecting my mental health. I might not pass as completely cisgender, but I do pass reasonably well. Many men are interested in me until they find out I'm trans, and then their interest fades away. I have silicone breast implants and a feminine fat distribution, but it seems like these attributes don't count for much.
My recent breaking point was falling for a man who is very promiscuous. He hits on any woman, and he even tried to pursue ALL of my friends, regardless of their looks. My cisgender female friends aren't interested in him because they already have their partners, and there's no shortage of men chasing after them. However, I developed feelings for this man and would do anything to be with him. I made advances towards him, only to be swiftly rejected. He didn't even consider giving me a chance. This type of rejection happens often, and it makes me feel extremely undesirable by the men I encounter in my everyday life, men with whom I'd like to have at least a one-night encounter.
I just discovered this community, and I feel like it's the only place where I can openly express these feelings. In other communities, I often hear advice like "you need to search in the right places," "have you tried dating other trans men," or "you'll find someone special." But what? I don't want someone special; I just want to have casual encounters with the guys at the local bar. I apologize for being so candid, but it seems like nobody addresses the rejection that trans individuals face from men, and it feels like no other trans person cares about it. Are there any other trans individuals who are sexual, desirous, and would like to feel wanted but face similar challenges? I think the girls in the transmedicalist community might be right when they say that the only solution is to be completely passable and stealth; it seems like there's no other way out. What do you think?