Should we 'force' ourselves to be intimate

[Hechter]

So I read this FML about a girl having no sexdrive due to medication and refusing to at least jack off her boyfriend because 'muh depression' . As if spreading your legs is so hard (pun intended). Me, having been depressed myself, I'd always continue having sex even if I wasn't into it, because I feel it's my duty as a girlfriend. Am I completely insane for tginking this?

 

[Vampirella]

I don't find it as fun if my husband isn't into it, and he feels the same way. I don't know just seems like a job at that point, not happy fun sexy time.

 

[Christ Cried]

We have 5 billion years of evolutionary pressure driving us to reproduce, no amount of resoning or coping will make that abate. Sex is an integral part of a healthy lifestyle.
Now, if you find yourself not wanting sex with someone specific, find somebody that you do want to fuck.

 

[DumbDude42]

depends on how serious the relationship is

if its very serious (marriage and children on the table) then you gotta do your duty as a spouse, cause a sexless marriage can't give you any children, and a childless AND sexless marriage sounds like it's just a divorce waiting to happen.

if its not very serious then why are you still in a relationship even though at least one of you isn't attracted to the other one anymore? might be time to split up.

 

[Foxxo]

If it's not time for it, it's not time for it. This post does make me question OP's relationship status, though.

 

[Unog]

You either want to fuck or you don't.

 

[Franjevina]

It is indeed your duty as a women to provide sex to your man whenever he wants it .

( also cooking and cleaning )

 

[No Exit]

I had a 5 year relationship fall apart for the same reason. Depression meds+ the pill really messed up her sex drive. We ended up drifting apart surprisingly rapidly and broke up.

I don't think you should have to put out but you definitely have to be aware of your partner's needs.

 

[Hechter]

If it's not time for it, it's not time for it. This post does make me question OP's relationship status, though.

I'm single right now

 

[Foxxo]

I'm single right now

Ah. Well, my position stands; until money is exchanged, no one owes anyone else sex. I haven't had a girlfriend before, though, so perhaps my reverse-incel judgement is improper.

 

[MasterDisaster]

All I know is a relationship built around sex is doomed to fail.

 

[Hechter]

You either want to fuck or you don't.

But all the time?

 

[Unog]

But all the time?

I don't get what you mean.

 

[DumbDude42]

All I know is a relationship built around sex is doomed to fail.

brainlet
sex is the entire reason why relationships form in the first place

 

[Manwithn0n0men]

All I know is a relationship built around sex is doomed to fail.

"It depends" Some peoples sense of intimacy is strongly correlated with sex [This TENDS to be more common with men then women]

No sexy times they will feel a lack of intimacy and act out

 

[Crabbo]

Depends how long-term the dry spell is going to be.
If the person is just permanently done with sex, it will put a pretty drastic stressor on a relationship. The lack of intimacy can drive quite a few people to find it elsewhere.

 

[Exigent Circumcisions]

Women are terrible at handjobs so her boyfriend isn't missing anything in that department.

 

[Archon]

"I'm horny" is just as valid a need as "I'm hungry", "I'm cold" or whatever. It's your partner, help them out for fuck's sake.

 

[Hechter]

I don't get what you mean.

If you don't want to fuck at any moment, that is just cruel

 

[Hechter]

"I'm horny" is just as valid a need as "I'm hungry", "I'm cold" or whatever. It's your partner, help them out for fuck's sake.

This!