. ..however she has offered to have the other party call her. So how does that square with the above? If this person had offered to have this "Vidar" call her AFTER he prompts her to join this skeevy podcast you might have a point. People who are trying to hide their gender don't tend to do bluffs that are so easily called as that, which she did, before Vidar "outfoxed" her (which he didn't, hence the square-quotes).
I'm not suggesting this proves their story, simply that your insistence that it discredits anything is wrong. Like I said, she goes on and proves her gender. . .and? You're telling me folks wouldn't just move on to the next thing. "Oh ok, well now why don't you give us details!" You know that's exactly what would happen so why pretend that her not making some shotgun acquiescence somehow changes anything.