Opinion Lily Allen: Women masturbating while in a relationship isn't wrong - WHY IS THIS A FUCKING BBC ARTICLE?


"If you're hungry, you don't wait until your partner gets home to have a slice of toast."

Except Lily Allen isn't talking about being hungry or indeed toast. She's talking about masturbation - and why she thinks women are still judged for enjoying "self-love".

The singer's never been afraid to speak her mind but admits there aren't many other high-profile women speaking about masturbation.

"It's still such a taboo subject but it's something most people do. So why wouldn't we talk about it with pride and without guilt?" she tells Radio 1 Newsbeat.

Saying women shouldn't be ashamed to talk about sex is, of course, nothing new. But that doesn't mean anything changes - especially when it comes to relationships.

Which takes us back to the toast analogy.

'A co-dependent attitude to pleasure'​

"When a woman talks about masturbation, it's always: 'Well you're clearly not getting sex from a male partner so you must be undesirable - or disappointed with your partner's ability. It's lazy, archaic and just not true," she says.

"There's a reason our bodies are made as they were. Women are given clitorises and G-spots - because they're there to have orgasms with.

"You can do it yourself and then enjoy it with your partner. It's quite a co-dependent attitude to pleasure - that we have to rely on someone else - when we're perfectly capable of doing it ourselves.

Lily says that the quicker women can discover this, then communication in relationships will become "much easier".

'We're not taught about female arousal'​

Ruth Davies-Mourby is 21 and from London. She says it's great to have role models like Lily Allen speak out and advocate female pleasure.

"We're taught in school that male arousal is normal and natural, but we're never taught about female arousal to the same extent," she tells Newsbeat.

"We're taught that women have sex for reproduction and nothing more."

Ruth says she's started feeling more comfortable speaking to her friends about masturbation in the past year or so.

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Picture of Ruth

Image caption'Slut-shaming also plays a big part in the taboo around female masturbation'
"I'm the friend that would recommend you sex toys, I've taken steps to make my friends more comfortable talking about sex positivity.

"Pleasure is something that benefits your health physically and mentally - it's a shame that women feel like it's something they can't do or mention.

"There's a lot of internalised misogyny so women feel like they should not be seeking their own pleasure," she adds.

'A vessel for male pleasure'​

When it comes to things that make some people feel anxious or ashamed, Lily very much believes "you need to get it out in the open". She wrote about sex and her discovery of sex toys very candidly in her 2018 autobiography.

She's now put her name to brand of vibrators and makes it known her title is "Chief Liberation Officer".

Lily, 35, admits she doesn't know whether it's getting easier for younger women to talk about sex.

"Certainly amongst my generation it isn't - and the older you get, the more inhibited people get about talking about masturbation," she believes.

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Lily on a bed

She also wishes she'd had more open conversations about masturbation when she was younger.

"I felt very alone and not very well-versed in this subject. And then going into my 20s, it felt like it was something everybody else was doing but nobody talked about and I didn't engage with it.

"I felt I was objectified and a vessel for male pleasure when it came to my sex in my adolescence.

"It wasn't until I committed to masturbation, self love and ultimately sex toys that I considered my own needs. And I'm in a much healthier place now at the grand old age of 35.

"I wish I'd come to terms with it much sooner, it would've saved me a lot of headaches."
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What have you gotten yourself into Hopper you absolute mong?

Clearly not Lily, but still...
 
She wrote a whole song about her brother Theon's general uselessness and wankery:

It's safe to say Alfie is now the most well-known and smartest of the Allen siblings.
Unless they have other siblings that don't work in showbiz, which means they must be the smart ones by default.

Also the aforementioned song about how her brother is a bum, that brother went on to become the one character that essentially survived Game of Thrones intact.
Um, about that...
 
It's safe to say Alfie is now the most well-known and smartest of the Allen siblings.
Unless they have other siblings that don't work in showbiz, which means they must be the smart ones by default.


Um, about that...

Yeah, yeah, that's why I reworded my post.
 
Local soulless singbot, I mean popstar has a bad opinion. It happens.
Sure, stick up a dozen dildos up to your back-end, but don't forget the mask because you own your own body beside the face part. Wear a mask.
 
What the fuck is she wittering on about anyway. Male masturbation is considered the pathetic action of a loser who can't get laid when done outside of a relationship. In a relationship its more tolerated, but I've still seen women complain that it's selfish. Female masturbation is considered hot whether in a relationship or not. That's why they made a song about it:

 
Also the aforementioned song about how her brother is a bum, that brother went on to become the one long term character on Game of Thrones that had a satisfying arc
When I wrote "Alfie", nobody really knew who I was. At first he was really upset about it, because he thought that I was just pointing out all of his bad points and attacking him. I thought it was really flattering [Laughs]. I thought he'd be really, really happy because it proved to him how much I loved him, that I care about him, and I want him to do something with his life. I suppose his paranoia — induced by smoking so much weed — made him think, "Why are you trying to be mean?"
What a fucking cunt.
 
In case you're unfamiliar, this is the song she wrote about her brother:

https://youtube.com/watch?v=Sr2Grfi3lFg
Imagine your famous sister singing that about you when you're a teenager. You'd be a fucking laughing stock.
This bitch is so sicko-mode she a Tua believes she was helping him with that.
Anyone that is jn a relationship with this cunt is going to be miserable.
Fuck Lily Allen, and I don't mean her orifices.
 
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