"Believe me, I'm aware of how off centered his videos are and how disgusting he can be. I also can't help but shake my head and laugh when he doesn't understand why women aren't attracted to him.
As to me preventing that trainwreck, oh boy! If any of you only knew. Josh's hygiene issues started when he was in Jr. high, and was literally a battle every day of his life to get him to brush his teeth, take a shower and put on clean clothes. He was late for school more than once because of the huge blow up battle that ensued after sending him back to his room to put clean clothes on or brush his teeth. The day he moved out of the house he was so excited because no one could make him do that anymore.
Believe it or not, he's actually gotten better. The first three years in his apartment, I would to have to go in an clean it at least once a year and it took a solid 18 hours to clean that small space. Then I would take ALL of his laundry to a laundry mat and spend 6 hours washing it. I would have to run it through two or three times and fight with him to surrender the clothes he was wearing to be washed.
For a long time I would still send him a text or something frequently to remind him to brush his teeth and take a shower. When he was coming over for family get togethers I would insist that he be clean and smell descent and would send him back into his apartment to change. You've all watched Josh's videos, you know who he is. Can you imagine the blow ups that happened over this issue.
On the bright side, he's actually gotten a lot better. I haven't had to clean his apartment for over two years now. Is it spotless, NO, but it isn't so disgusting that I feel the need to clean it or that he will get evicted. He's also started doing laundry a LOT more than he used to. It used to be so bad, that when I took him to the store I had to drive with the windows down because I couldn't breathe, and my vehicle still smelled two days later. I haven't had to have him change clothes or drive with the windows down for over a year now. As to wearing the same shirt in his videos all the time, I can see him changing into his favorite shirt just for the videos because that is the way he is with clothes.
Part of his aspergers is sensory disorders and he will only wear certain types of clothes and of course his obsession with all things black and green limit what he will wear also. Like I said, on the bright side, he has gotten 1000 times better at doing laundry.
As to your comments about his attitude towards women. For that I apologize. I promise you he wasn't raised that way. In fact, we have a household, including myself, of feminists. (I'm certain many people here will have a fun time with that one haha) This started when Josh had his first crush in grade school, and was tormented by classmates for it. And, of course, his crush was the prettiest girl in school, so that didn't help. He was surrounded by literally 20-30 kids on the playground the day he let it slip that he liked this girl. They hazed the hell out of him through the entire recess. Then proceeded to send him "love letters" pretending they were from her for the remainder of the year.
People continued to do things like this to him for years. Sending him fake love letters, etc. Josh was, as you can imagine, terrible at communicating with girls, so whenever he did like a girl, he would try to approach her and was often brutally and publicly rejected. And then came that Fucking video game, I can't remember the name of it, but he wanted to play it soooo bad and I watched him play it one day and the character in the video game treated women like shit and used them for sex. I LOST it, and those video games were never allowed in my house again and we had a million talks about the subject.
Unfortunately, Josh is still mentally around 11 or 12. As such, he feels a need to brag about his conquests and forgets that half of his audience if female. He also feels that bragging about these conquests make him cool and adored by his fans. I'm not excusing the behavior, and trust me, when I see it, I talk to him about it. I literally talked to him AGAIN last week about treating women with respect and not as objects.
Another bright side, is that he actually does treat women nice in real life. To my knowledge, and in my presence, he has always been very nice and respectful to the few girlfriends I've seen him with.
Josh does not handle being teased well and cannot distinguish between friendly and mean teasing. And, his was traumatized by the way people hazed him over girls everyday for several years. Therefore, when he gets rejected by women, which is often, he goes to youTube and rants, and once he gets started on a rant, he just escalates. When I can catch him starting a rant, I can usually defuse it. Not always, but usually. But, during these rants, he feels the need to say the most shocking and horrible things he can to try to make his point that someone wronged him. Another topic of daily conversation for us."