Is it wrong to say yes "Sir", yes "Ma'am"?

[Feefee81093]

My mamma taught me to respect my elders and say yes sir/ma'am respectively. Here I am in adulthood and people are bitching about misgendering. So do the rules still apply? Are there still people who appreciate it? I already have been conditioned to pleasantries so trannies better be presenting if they want that he/him she/her.

 

[Bargain Bin Laden]

Your mamma taught you to respect your elders. Most trannies don’t make it that far.

 

[Dysnomia]

Simply replace "Sir" and "Ma'am" with "Xir". In the event of an "IT'S MA'AM!" situation please duck and cover.

 

[kartofel]

Normalfag southerners either don't mind or they appreciate it. Dangerhairs and faggots don't like it, but you should already be avoiding them anyway. People who put pronoun crap in their bios or email signatures are people to avoid, even if they look normal on the surface.

 

[malleusmaleficarum]

im an educator, so my job is to tell people that ma'am and sir are gendered and so not inclusive for gender non-conforming (GNC) individuals. you need to put in the work to hold space for non-binary folx.

 

[Shamefur Dispray]

Anyone who cares about misgendering isn't worth your respect

 

[Agent Abe Caprine]

You have to say it with a Southern or Appalachian accent. It sounds weird otherwise.

 

[bliblblblbbllb]

In my job, my bosses actively seem to dislike that kind of respect. They insist on first names and no titles.

They want you to feel like an "equal part of the team" but also their word goes and they can fire you and you have to do whatever they say. Which is how having a boss works, but idk, you're supposed to pretend you're friends instead in today's work culture I guess.

With the clients, only old people and veterans like to be called sir/ma'am. When I would call younger people sir/ma'am, they always immediately thought they were in trouble. Zoomer men especially I've learned do NOT want to be treated formally and react best to basically grunting and very informal talk that I don't even use outside of work.

 

[Finger Pistols]

Where I live, older people do appreciate it. Specially your bosses/superiors, since it demonstrates outwardly a level of respect for them.

Don't use it on zoomers, younger people or danger-hairs tough. They are most likely to chew you out for misgendering them. At best just tell you that you are uptight, that you have a stick up your ass and need to relax. At least that has been my experience.

 

[Agarathium1066]

I've met some men and women, though more the latter, that take deep offense to being referred to as 'ma'am'. They seem to think I'm implying they're old when its simply a polite acknowledgement. Though if they complain I usually end up "accidentally" slipping and doing it often anyway.

 

[The Evil Midnight Bomber]

No sir.

 

[Pentex]

I sometimes sir/ma'am people on instinct because (regional) America upbringing and still think calling people you don't know personally by their first name presumes too much familiarity.

Of course, you can use sir or ma'am for maximum lulz.

 

[MadStan]

I’ve noticed some people take offense to “sir” or “ma’am”. I was in a restaurant the other day and I said “excuse me ma’am” and she snapped back “don’t call me ma’am” and I responded with “oh I’m sorry you misheard me, I meant ‘fat fucking bitch I couldn’t help but bump into even on a Freeway’”

The important thing is to say what you feel and you’ll be unlikely to be called out on it. I learned my lesson.

 

[CuzinEd]

No, I am not calling anyone sir. That's like shit they do in the military. It's Boomer tier and cringey. Using sir and Ma'am is a sign of respect. Respect is earned and not given out. Never call anyone sir or Ma'am. It implies they are better than you they out rank you and you respect them. How can you respect a stranger you don't know. Just say what you would normally and drop the sir and ma'am part. It's what I do.

 

[Rozzy]

I sometimes sir/ma'am people on instinct because (regional) America upbringing and still think calling people you don't know personally by their first name presumes too much familiarity.

Of course, you can use sir or ma'am for maximum lulz.
https://youtube.com/watch?v=EtqCgkOOjYc

You will lose money over this.

Of course they will, he put the boot into some of their stock and likely damaged it.

 

[Sir Bartleby Montclair]

I’ve noticed some people take offense to “sir” or “ma’am”. I was in a restaurant the other day and I said “excuse me ma’am” and she snapped back “don’t call me ma’am” and I responded with “oh I’m sorry you misheard me, I meant ‘fat fucking bitch I couldn’t help but bump into even on a Freeway’”

The important thing is to say what you feel and you’ll be unlikely to be called out on it. I learned my lesson.

When I worked retail, I noticed switching to “miss” for women lead to a lot less chimpouts. This is definitely a regional thing though.

 

[Moths]

Its never wrong to be right