This'll be my last message on the topic I swear, but I suddenly realize why there was some miscommunication.
Icecat believes loveshys lives are sooooo hard because they are loveshy because of their upbringing, which caused you to ask whether upbringing is indeed an important factor in being loveshy.
I merely tried to make the point that I do believe upbringing is an important factor in developing hang ups in general, but I didn't realize this made me sound like I agreed with Icecat on his other assumption that the lives of the Loveshy forum members suck because of their loveshyness and we should feel sorry for them.
Because I see it more like failing to master eating with cutlery, or using public urinals. It's rather degrading and fucked up that you don't manage to do such a basic task, but it hardly is the defining factor whether your life sucks or not. I've got a monogamous and deeply fullfilling relationship with my right hand, as soon as I finally find a job so my parents don't own me anymore I'm golden
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