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[The Last Stand]

Only a couple weeks into the busy season at work and I'm already burned out.

Another day, another rejection letter. This time after a 45 minute interview. I expected this, but nonetheless it's defeating all the same. I don't get why politicians talk about the job market when being accepted for a job is the hard part.

 

[Nameless One]

Sometimes it just feels like days go by. Nothing happens. Every day is the same. At least my brother has been over. The perks of being an older brother is having a younger one to talk to.

@(((I am NOT a jew)))

I had a great time with the chinese girl recently and I'm not disrespecting her... but she was just very normal and there was a lot of my interests I couldn't realistically talk to her about, not because they're weird, but because she would have no idea what the fuck I was talking about.

You have it all wrong man. Introduce women to your interests. Even if it seems autistic, the authenticity goes a long way. If she likes you, she might look into it or ask you more about it. Or just listen even when she doesn't understand. Even when my ex didn't understand my autistic hobbies or interests she always listened and made the effort to understand in the beginning when we were still breaking the ice.

Do the same for women you talk to. Get into her interests. Get to know her. I swear dating and even friendships are so fucked because you half ass it. And you give up at the moment where you need to bridge the gap. You have to tell her about SOMETHING. Doesn't matter what.

How the fuck do you expect people to click with you if you won't even try for them? How do you expect to get closer to the girl if you don't even make the effort to talk to her honestly, as if she were an "older woman". I thought I liked older women too but people our age are just as good. Just requires effort and finding the one.

Despite everything I've said about my ex our relationship was really good and we made fond memories I can pass away with happily. The bitterness of the end doesn't make what we built pointless. Face your fears. Most men who prefer older women are just scared of younger ones. You won't be let down when you're having a good time with her. I recommend more effort, regardless if it's wasted. Because someone will take notice.

If normality is a negative to you, I have bad news for you. You're not gonna find women. Not of any age. You should probably become a fuckin queer and post on 4chin or use that duolicious app at that rate. Everyone has their oddities. It's on you to discover them more and build trust. Normality is a good sign, despite the normie hate shit. Idk about you but eccentrics are a tiresome sort. We are all a little eccentric but it's just busywork to deal with them when you struggle being one yourself.

 

[Justanotherguy]

I am doing okay, all I have are first world problems. I'm struggling to get a job, but my bills are paid, my kids are spoiled, happy & healthy.

However, I am incredibly lonely and wondering if the world is broken, or if I just don't know how to adapt.

I am grateful to be part of this community.

 

[Squanto Airi]

Another dday, another rejection letter. This time after a 45 minute interview. I expected this, but nonetheless it's defeating all the same. I don't get why politicians talk about the job market when being accepted for a job is the hard part.

That's the worst part. There's plenty of people who want to work, but the hiring manager will find ways to not hire (lately "no family" despite the workplace legitimately being 75% related in one way or another). And it's just food service jobs.

 

[Nameless One]

That's the worst part. There's plenty of people who want to work, but the hiring manager will find ways to not hire (lately "no family" despite the workplace legitimately being 75% related in one way or another). And it's just food service jobs.

The memes are real. Momma had a hard time finding work, and she has like MANAGER experience. Nothing to scoff at. She did accounting too once. Good track record. The only blemish on her record are company fuckups because they didn't give her the right hours and never called her in after Dad died and she had to take leave. Anyways niggress cunts decided to hold back her hours because the black bitches felt threatened by her after she transferred locations. It was an actual case of Anti white discrimination. And it's a huge company so nothing will be done about it. Labor board did nothing about it. Fuck these soul suckers.


My mom is a good employee to a FAULT. A boss's favorite kind of brown nose almost. She does everything by the books. She did her lazy ass Managers jobs for them, cause they were a fat lazy bitch... she overworks. And no job really cares anymore. Not that they ever did but she has nothing to stick by anymore. She practices what these motherfuckers preach about productivity, and gets no compensation or benefit for it. So fucked up. The sweat of her brow turned a 300+ dollar paycheck into a 116 dollar one after their bullshit taxes.

 

[The Last Stand]

My mom is a good employee to a FAULT. A boss's favorite kind of brown nose almost. She does everything by the books. She did her lazy ass Managers jobs for them, cause they were a fat lazy bitch... she overworks. And no job really cares anymore.

I want to add to this. Some job postings would ask you to make an account to start the application. So now, your email address is all over the place and likely filled with auto-responses.

 

[Justanotherguy]

Another day, another rejection letter. This time after a 45 minute interview. I expected this, but nonetheless it's defeating all the same. I don't get why politicians talk about the job market when being accepted for a job is the hard part.

Brother/sister, please don't feel defeated.

For 3 months I have been applying, I have a master's degree in data analysis/computer science, great work history, great references. 3 interviews no fucking call backs.

It's not you. The market is fucked.

 

[The Last Stand]

It's not you. The market is fucked.

Yeah, tell that to the boomers. Now watch them say, "all part of the game," "go back to school," "it's not THAT bad," "try applying to xyz," when they're likely set in their career or pleasantly retired.

 

[Justanotherguy]

Now watch them say, "go back to school,"

That's the worst fucking part, I did! lol

 

[The Last Stand]

That's the worst fucking part, I did! lol

Bear in mind I currently have a job, I'm unhappy with the current pay and hours. Most times I'm up late where I barely have energy to do much of anything afterwards.

 

[From The Uncanny Valley]

why am I covered in mosquito bites I DONT EVEN FUCKING GO OUTSIDE

 

[Justanotherguy]

Bear in mind I currently have a job, I'm unhappy with the current pay and hours. Most times I'm up late where I barely have energy to do much of anything afterwards.

I am sorry. I am in a similar boat, golden handcuff situation.

why am I covered in mosquito bites I DONT EVEN FUCKING GO OUTSIDE

Do you have the windows/door open?

 

[The Last Stand]

why am I covered in mosquito bites I DONT EVEN FUCKING GO OUTSIDE

Depends on your apartment or location, bugs can sneak their way in. I woke up to irritation on my neck. A day or so before, I saw a little ant like bug crawling on my mattress.

 

[73_Autistic_Fuck_54]

Something is telling you that media is not what you should be doing!

The problem is that there just isn't much else to do for fun where I'm at, and the few friends I do have really just want to play video games in their spare time, they aren't actually interested in meeting up to hang out (or at least not with me)

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Brother/sister, please don't feel defeated.

For 3 months I have been applying, I have a master's degree in data analysis/computer science, great work history, great references. 3 interviews no fucking call backs.

It's not you. The market is fucked.

At least half of the listings on sites like indeed are "ghost jobs", they aren't actually hiring, or if they are, the job will go to someone already in the company. Fast food and retail businesses are the worst when it comes to this in my experience, I go into any McDonald's, Taco Bell, etc, and there's maybe two people at most working behind the counter at any time. Retail is similar, the cashier position has essentially been fully automated, and there's almost no employees actually in the store

 

[Timothy McGay]

aight

 

[(((I am NOT a jew)))]

You have it all wrong man.

Spoiler: I'm just going to say no, I don't.

I get what you're saying, but still disagree with pretty much all of it. I do make the effort, I do ask them about their interests and I do listen. I will talk about my hobbies but there is just a wide divide I've seen, and yes I've put myself out there. It's not lack of effort or anything. It's just an acknowledgement of how things are. Not to say there aren't cool ones out there or I haven't enjoyed their company. But yes, generally the women who grew up through the 20th century had better popular stuff to like, their politics were a little less retarded, they had to generally pull their weight more at work or when initiating/keeping conversation, ect. There's such a difference it's unreal. I say it's really been the last 15 years that have truly fucked things up.
Also it just seems like older women are less judgmental. There's so many more social rules when interacting with them that have been created now that just were not around in the past.
You can say I just need to pull my bootstraps up tighter but nah, I'm comfortable with my assessment after dealing with this for about a decade.

And no job really cares anymore. Not that they ever did but she has nothing to stick by anymore.

Spoiler: That's the real problem, honestly

It's not that people don't want to work. It's not even the fact that we're not making the type of income our parents made. It's just... "Why?". Most jobs just seem like glorified daycares or highschools anymore. I don't mind busting ass, working hard. It's the fact I'm doing it for and around people that would honestly rather sink their business than treat the decent employees with any semblance of respect.
I had this talk with a boomer the other day where I told him what's going on with my company and he said "Whatever you do, make sure you give them a 30 day notice." And my answer was a very elongated form of "LOL nah bro".

On another note...

I do miss my friend and the fact that this time today in the past we probably would have been watching a bunch of martial arts and horror movies. I hope we can patch things up in the future, but I also think it would be disrespectful to myself to try to extend the branch only on my end without some sort of apology or extended effort from him after he's conducted himself a certain way.

In the end, this probably was the best thing to happen in the long run.

It didn't hit me until really recently how little I actually had, how much of my life wasn't even mine. That's been depressing, but in the end a good thing.

For a long time I thought I was moving forward, and in certain ways I was, but it wasn't until the last year that I really started saying "Hey... I don't have to deal with this." I thought it was greedy and selfish to want more and that it was okay to take whatever I could get from life. Looking at the relationships or lack thereof in my life, the job environments, the way I've put myself out there for women that clearly weren't interested, the lack of stability and living situations. It was all so dumb and sad, but I thought I deserved that.

I didn't realize just how much my family life and some of the people I met as I just was trying to escape it really still held a sway on me and how I perceive the world. Also, it compounds over time. If people can look at you, your body language, they know you just have that face and they exploit that, until it becomes this reinforced issue. A lot of people really are sociopaths.

I didn't think I could live anywhere, go anywhere, be around people who loved me, be doing what I love with my life. Things had to hit critical mass for me to look at my life and say "I can do better, and that's not a bad thing." I'm not saying things are going to be great from now on. But, yeah... I actually want to do things now.

"Oh, that seems like a nice place, I wonder how much it costs to move there."

"Hey maybe in three months I actually could afford my own apartment and be able to listen to music as loud as I want and watch movies in the living room naked."

"That car payment isn't so bad. I could take trips out of town every other day. I could have that paid off in a year."

"Oh, maybe I actually could date that girl that seems out of my league. Even if I can't, I'm going to see."

"I could realistically draw anatomy, sing well, write a book in a short period of time if I really grinded at it."

Life can actually be more.

 

[Squanto Airi]

My mom is a good employee to a FAULT. A boss's favorite kind of brown nose almost. She does everything by the books. She did her lazy ass Managers jobs for them, cause they were a fat lazy bitch... she overworks. And no job really cares anymore. Not that they ever did but she has nothing to stick by anymore. She practices what these motherfuckers preach about productivity, and gets no compensation or benefit for it. So fucked up. The sweat of her brow turned a 300+ dollar paycheck into a 116 dollar one after their bullshit taxes.

Same though the pay is a bit different. I hate being agreeable sometimes, and it doesnt help that I'm the most "tech literate".

Bear in mind I currently have a job, I'm unhappy with the current pay and hours. Most times I'm up late where I barely have energy to do much of anything afterwards.

Same. Tonight and tomorrow I close, and there's nights I don't get home until 10pm. Then come Tuesday through Thursday I have to be at work at 2am.

 

[The Last Stand]

Same. Tonight and tomorrow I close, and there's nights I don't get home until 10pm. Then come Tuesday through Thursday I have to be at work at 2am.

I'm on a computer screen ten hours a day where I'm a "closer." Think how hard it is to sleep, then wake up for the next day. No time for basically anything, even the necessities. Let me say that for anybody out there working, it isn't worth it to work your life away.

 

[Squanto Airi]

I'm on a computer screen ten hours a day where I'm a "closer." Think how hard it is to sleep, then wake up for the next day.

trust me I know, I'm there since about half my job is computer based.

No time for basically anything, even the necessities. Let me say that for anybody out there working, it isn't worth it to work your life away.

It really aint. Especially around coworkers who will regularly throw you under the bus.

 

[McMitch]

The neighbors took out (well, hired Mexicans to take out) the line of mulberries lining the property. On one hand: mulberries are nasty plants that go nothing but drop berries everywhere and attract birds to shit on my car. On the other hand: there’s nothing blocking vision across both properties.