Hey Women, Why do you have to make simple things complicated?

[Popper Whiting]

Honest answers please. I ask because of the women in my life (who I love), especially my fiance, who for some reason have the amazing ability to make things that would be simple if done by myself (especially if left alone to be done by myself) extremely fucking complicated and time consuming. If I am supposed to do something then why isn't it enough that I get it done? Why must it be done in a certain way? Why must you have input at multiple stages of a task? And why must that input change the way, and the timing of, how the task gets done? Why must those things change at a whim? Why am I the asshole after I get frustrated you've changed things and complicated them?

I ask this in sincere frustration and love. Why can't you girls just keep shit simple when it comes to getting things done? Are you even aware that you're doing this? I understand the need for listening to your opinions and inclusion but at some stage you gotta realize you're complicating unnecessary shit. I get it is a male vs female thing, and an extremely petty gripe on my part. But women of Kiwifarms, why isn't a man just doing the damn task enough and why must shit be done a more complicated way?

 

[Mariposa2.0 LTE]

Women tend toward neuroticsm due to overdevelopment of the frontal lobe and amygdala. This makes women overthink things. Positives? Men don't realize that this is an attractive trait making women seem fragile.

 

[SNU]

I just say "that's retarded and you're retarded for suggesting that". They get mad and leave me alone long enough to finish the job. Then once I'm done I just say "sorry. That was an over reaction. I was just frustrated by how retarded you were acting" and they forgive me.

 

[Spitz]

A woman's tool is emotion. Your tool is logic. Use it. The more emotional she gets, the more logical you get. And stay on that logic. Never get emotional in those situations, ever.

 

[Mariposa2.0 LTE]

https://youtube.com/watch?v=Qhv-c2dd7awA woman's tool is emotion. Your tool is logic. Use it. The more emotional she gets, the more logical you get. And stay on that logic. Never get emotional in those situations, ever.

They tend to be Yin & Yang, but raknbow haired harpies have confused emotions with logic.

 

[Poop Shoot]

So what were you fucking up?

 

[Spitz]

They tend to be Yin & Yang, but raknbow haired harpies have confused emotions with logic.

That's why I go monotone broken record on the logic. They get more emotional, tire themselves out, and leave. Emotions take way more energy than logic. I'll never apologize for getting something done right in the most efficient way possible, and I won't have to apologize for calling them a retard because I stayed on that logic and didn't call them one.

 

[LiquidChrisRespecter]

There's a proper order of operations for doing things. If you say you're 'dusting' and then I see you just skimming between a bunch of ornaments instead of removing them and then wiping the entire surface, then you're not dusting.

 

[Popper Whiting]

So what were you fucking up?

Nothing. It had to do with organizing something for Christmas. I had shit organized, and it became a fight between fiance and future mother in law. Something that had nothing to do with what I had to do for Christmas. Suddenly things had to be done a certain way, so as not to offend certain people who weren't even turning up, and it made a 4 hour task an 16 hour task. Instead of just leaving me to do a task, a fight broke out that made the task a lot harder, a fight that I had nothing to do with. And this isn't the first time this shit has happened.

If I had fucked up I would have been told. But the only trouble I've been in is in asking why shit had to be so complicated.

 

[LiquidChrisRespecter]

Suddenly things had to be done a certain way, so as not to offend certain people who weren't even turning up, and it made a 4 hour task an 16 hour task.

This is a uniquely femoid behaviour, although I'm not susceptible to it because I'm autistic. I'm not going to waste my energy catering for no-shows and people I don't particularly give a shit about.

Unfortunately, you should expect the wedding preparation to be like this where a series of hoops have to be jumped through to appease a bunch of distant relative fuckheads, all with conflicting wants.

Good luck.

 

[herefortheactualthreads]

Honest answers please.

women just don't know what they want, and expect us to read minds and understand their bullshit.

 

[notafloridian]

Modern society and its values are so far removed from how humans have lived for thousands of years that our brains can't cope. Women these days are socialized as men and vice versa - this is especially apparent with the tranny shit.

The cognitive dissonance between the way people have lived for the longest time vs. whatever we've been doing since the 60s is enough to explain most retarded behavior.

I blame the French.

 

[David Brown]

>already engaged and hasn't figured this out yet
aw jeez d00d

But really the most interesting thing here is... why don't you ask your fiancé these questions? Ask. Communicate. Good grief, it's not hard.

 

[KittyGremlin]

https://youtube.com/watch?v=Qhv-c2dd7awA woman's tool is emotion. Your tool is logic. Use it. The more emotional she gets, the more logical you get. And stay on that logic. Never get emotional in those situations, ever.

There are many tasks where hard logic doesn't get you far.

 

[Popper Whiting]

>already engaged and hasn't figured this out yet
aw jeez d00d

But really the most interesting thing here is... why don't you ask your fiancé these questions? Ask. Communicate. Good grief, it's not hard.

She's Colombian. But here's the thing. I am Australian, I have the same problems with my Aussie mother and sisters. My two brothers, have married an Indonesian and a Korean, have the same problems with their wives as I do with my Colombian fiance and MIL. Explain to me how, despite all of us communicating the same thing, that despite the difference in culture shit is gets complicated in honestly kinda the same way, that this problem is somehow universal across cultures? Any why it is the man's fault for not communicating, despite all of us saying directly "you are complicating things!". Obviously you're switched in to a way of communicating most blokes aren't so enlighten us. Tell me how to communicate this shit, across multiple cultures, as obviously I am the one who is getting it wrong.

 

[Finger Pistols]

I just say "that's retarded and you're retarded for suggesting that". They get mad and leave me alone long enough to finish the job. Then once I'm done I just say "sorry. That was an over reaction. I was just frustrated by how retarded you were acting" and they forgive me.

This works really well for me. Mostly because once I have completed the job they don't have anything to complain about. Another thing that works is telling them "I am doing the job, I am doing the physical labour. You are not. Just leave this to me and it'll be done in a few. You can do something else while I'm at it." Then they just leave me alone to work in peace.

 

[dick brain]

There's a proper order of operations for doing things. If you say you're 'dusting' and then I see you just skimming between a bunch of ornaments instead of removing them and then wiping the entire surface, then you're not dusting.

If I'm skimming between "ornaments" it's because the "ornaments" are fucking stupid and taking up space serving no purpose but I'm treating them with the bare minimum respect by not sweeping them directly into the bin with the rest of the trash because I know you like them.

 

[Bargain Bin Laden]

I don’t know, we just do!

 

[Blobby's Murder Knife]

I dunno. I get bitched at by men for the same shit to be honest.

Why did you do it THIS way?

I dunno, why does it matter?

*commence autistic male screeching*

 

[David Brown]

She's Colombian. But here's the thing. I am Australian, I have the same problems with my Aussie mother and sisters. My two brothers, have married an Indonesian and a Korean, have the same problems with their wives as I do with my Colombian fiance and MIL. Explain to me how, despite all of us communicating the same thing, that despite the difference in culture shit is gets complicated in honestly kinda the same way, that this problem is somehow universal across cultures? Any why it is the man's fault for not communicating, despite all of us saying directly "you are complicating things!". Obviously you're switched in to a way of communicating most blokes aren't so enlighten us. Tell me how to communicate this shit, across multiple cultures, as obviously I am the one who is getting it wrong.

Lol I'm not going to help a whole family of race mixers