Asian-American mother issues

[wtfNeedSignUp]

With more and more Asians in the west creating media, I find that they really have a tendency to put in parental issues in it, especially mother issues relating to being a disappointment or not connecting to their cultural heritage. While I could understand the latter somewhat as usual second generation immigrants, the former is weird in how widespread it is and how you rarely hear of it in actual Asian media. Anyone has any insight on it?

Edit. Examples for you faggots:
* Turning Red - Where the girl conflict with her mom is a major plot point.... apperantly.
* Bao- Pretty much the same, admittedly from the same creators:

* 1000xRESIST - The game that made me make the thread, it's an alright walking sim which is entirely about generational conflict.
Googling films made by asian american has a good chunk seem to be about family but need to see them to actually know if they fit the bill.

 

[Übertroon]

Current day western culture glorifies victims, and asians and hapas tend to be well off, so their go to excuse for being a victim is their tiger mom traumatising them if they're full asian or their mother being a slave to their oppressing white father if they're mixed.

None of these people have ever actually faced hardship. They just need something to gripe about for internet attention.

 

[Prophetic Spirit]

Sounds like a real first-world problem.
Third world doesn't have those problems 'cus nobody cares. Literally.

 

[Angry Alt Right Nerd]

Great thread OP, zero examples provided

 

[WTBOnlineFather]

Who'da thought that importing trophy wives from a foreign culture which places all of society and especially family above the worth of the individual would result in parenting trouble? A sane woman capable of being a good mother would be unlikely to agree to this.

The other reason you don't hear about this in Asian media, as you say, is because in Asia they don't promote values of individualism and freedom like America and other western countries do. The Asian style of parenting isn't at odds with Asian culture, it is with Western culture.

 

[独人13]

It is entirely appropriate and natural to be of Asian descent. Chinese parents, like parents of all backgrounds, cherish and care for their children just as deeply as any other ethnic group.

 

[Robert w'E'd Leef]

Asians have autism by default and they hate their children

 

[Atatata]

Asia has a more traditional "the mother raises the child, the husband provides" so they tend to end up having more issues with the mother growing up as she is there for the stricter hard parts of child raising and anchoring to their culture in the more annoying and not cool ways.
Some end up regretting how they acted in the relationship as they get older and reach parenting age, they're more willing to try and understand how it looks from their mother's perspective, it ends up coming out in stuff like this.
I don't think it's just an Asian thing though. Sticking to Disney movies, Encanto does it too.

Edit: So does Brave.

 

[Audit]

You either die a 4B or live long enough to become your tiger mother.

Jests aside, it really depends on the sub-species of Asian you're talking about. Chinese and Korean mothers are your typical tiger moms or dragon ladies obsessed with their family's success. Dad's just there to go to work, come home, and play with the kids occasionally. His job isn't to make sure you do well in school or sports. That's mom's job, and by all that is holy will she make sure you get to violin practice, soccer practice, the afterschool math tutor, and programming classes. Inevitably, this creates generations of kids who felt they didn't really have a childhood and mom was squishing them. Hence, all of the movies about Asian moms being insufferable twatwaffles that are mean to their kids and henpeck their weak, feckless husbands. It's just a completely different way of life. White mothers show they love their kids by playing with them and letting them explore their hobbies without stress. Asian moms show their love by turning every game into a competition and every hobby into a potential future career. I theorize this is why some Asian countries are so creatively stifled even in times of economic prosperity, or why the Japanese have turned high school into an entire sub-genre of Isekai.

Still, can't fault Asian moms in their ability to keep their husbands around. Lowest single mother rates in the entire western world and a strong aversion to burning coal. They're doing something right. And by right, I mean completely taking over the household and making it a success whether or not hubby and kids agree with your concept of success.

 

[whatever I feel like]

I wonder if their urine has a richer, MSG enfused, taste.

 

[HyperboreanRightsActivist]

It's not just Asian mothers, nigger. Have you heard of Italian-American moms?

Hell, there's a reason why "la chancla" is such a huge meme in Latin America and why everyone threatens to beat each other with their shoes in those MemriTV vids.

 

[Cemetery Support]

What happened to you, OP?

 

[Whitney Houston On Crack]

PL: I had an Asian ex, whom I loved very, very much. Her parents completely ruined our relationship, because I was a gaijin pigu.

I was pretty devastated, but my racist grandma rejoiced, because "I'm so happy that my great-grandkids won't look like Jackie Chan".

What I'm probably trying to say is that mommy issues aren't an ethnically exclusive thing.

 

[wtfNeedSignUp]

It's not just Asian mothers, nigger. Have you heard of Italian-American moms?

Hell, there's a reason why "la chancla" is such a huge meme in Latin America and why everyone threatens to beat each other with their shoes in those MemriTV vids.

When thinking about the thread I compared with Jewish mothers which are also infamous for being controlling, but other than humorous gags, I don't remember Jewish made media that focused on it.

I was pretty devastated, but my racist grandma rejoiced, because "I'm so happy that my great-grandkids won't look like Jackie Chan".

Treasure that grandpa.

What happened to you, OP?

War.

 

[Paper Machete]

There is a phenomenon with diaspora where conservative aspects of their culture are maintained because they band together to keep their own identity while their country of origin relaxes in certain areas culturally. Desire to assimilate and prove oneself and that being an attitude repeated in the next generation despite already achieving assimilation is at play as well.

But as another pointed out, the kid challenging and breaking free from a parent's influence is also a strictly western idea. It doesn't show up in Asian media as much because it's not considered a good thing. Also, good to keep in mind how a lot of media in the west today is more about trying to change norms or create a false idea of how normal in other people certain attitudes and behaviors are. They want to encourage younger people to challenge and turn against their parents because they see it as a good thing.

 

[Whitney Houston On Crack]

Treasure that grandpa.

It was my grandmother. And indeed, I treasured her very much. She passed away from cancer in 2013, on her 60th birthday.

She hated Asians with a burning passion. Especially Chinese and Vietnamese people. I asked my grandpa why, and he put it very succinctly:

"Your grandma hates them, because they eat dogs, they are communists and they like to sleep on the floor."

 

[Dude Snakes]

It is entirely appropriate and natural to be of Asian descent. Chinese parents, like parents of all backgrounds, cherish and care for their children just as deeply as any other ethnic group.
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They cherish boys over girls.

 

[Rekieta’s Broken Penis]

"Your grandma hates them, because they eat dogs, they are communists and they like to sleep on the floor."

Lol so true. Every time I’ve been to China, Vietnam, or Thailand somebody has either tried to feed me dog or I have seen them selling dog meat (as in visibly a butchered dog carcass). Yet, for some reason, Asians get so fucking butthurt when you point out that they eat dogs in China.

 

[Kari Kamiya]

Asia has a more traditional "the mother raises the child, the husband provides" so they tend to end up having more issues with the mother growing up as she is there for the stricter hard parts of child raising and anchoring to their culture in the more annoying and not cool ways.
Some end up regretting how they acted in the relationship as they get older and reach parenting age, they're more willing to try and understand how it looks from their mother's perspective, it ends up coming out in stuff like this.
I don't think it's just an Asian thing though. Sticking to Disney movies, Encanto does it too.
https://youtube.com/watch?v=ta31VGaVHrYhttps://youtube.com/watch?v=DUGtyj5QlEMEdit: So does Brave.
https://youtube.com/watch?v=By6iUxkRzHM

Notice these movies plus Turning Red/Bao were written by women.

Need some examples from male writers complaining about their generational trauma from being raised by a culture that butts heads with Western society, though something tells me even those had female influence.

 

[Audit]

Notice these movies plus Turning Red/Bao were written by women.

Need some examples from male writers complaining about their generational trauma from being raised by a culture that butts heads with Western society, though something tells me even those had female influence.

Most Asian guys raised in the west are effectively inseparable from white guys beyond cosmetic differences. There's always the soyfaggots who get paraded in front of diversity efforts, but male feminists are rarely taken seriously.

The burden for men in Asian cultures is really mostly just "work 80 hour weeks, eventually get married, and produce grandkids." It's the women who get stuck with the added bonus of being expected to maintain all the cultural traditions of their overbearing mothers.