Unpopular opinion; but Becky
is a victim. You can be a total dick and be the victim of abuse. Yes, she got herself into this mess, yes she’s unpleasant at best and all the things you guys have touched on. Everyone has made stupid or ill advised choices in their life though, no one is perfect and being on this site doesn’t give you much of a high ground.
(except for @Aquinas that fucker is perfect)
Emotional abuse is tricky, if someone has a partner who treats them awfully, then turns around and says “you should be grateful I put up with you, no one else would tolerate your shit,” over and over again. They start to believe it, then convince themselves that they’re with the best the person could do, or if they leave no one could want them again. We
know Amber pulls this type of shit because of Kasey, even becky has admitted Amber is mean to her. It doesn’t start off with screeching and name calling, it’s small arguments and you pass it off thinking they’re in a foul mood or maybe they do have a point. Boiling frog and all that. By the time the nasty stuff comes along you don’t know what to think or blame yourself for every thing that goes wrong.
Does this excuse her behavior? Fuck no. Is she still a drunk driving, lazy, loser who doesn’t want to act like an adult and take responsibility in any way shape or form? Absolutely. It’s not an excuse to be a shithead, but it’s a bitch to get out of and with the unhealthy level of codependency these two have, it’ll never happen.