I was hoping to not discuss this because I don't have any physical evidence. Most of this happened years back.
Mostly looking for information about what Dex and Volts' relationship was like. I've seen a lot of "This person was abusive" thrown from both sides but no actual substantial evidence there was abuse present. I'm not saying I doubt Dex's claims, but considering everything I've heard from Volts seems to be lies you'll have to forgive me if I'm a little skeptical (especially seeing as Tumblrinas don't seem to actually know the difference between abuse and people not agreeing with them.)
Isolation
Volts' first move when I got with them was breaking off my friendships by lying. Of course this happened years ago. The drama Volts brewed up was that there was this person in our friend circle was was brash, let's just call him Charles to avoid a namedrop. Charles made lewd jokes a lot, the ones that bothered Volts were rape jokes. I learned to brush them off. Volts however, tried ousting him in a circle of people who had no qualms with him, especially since he didn't mean half of the things he said. When we didn't do what they wanted (kicking him out of the skype group we were in), they got pissed and began to raise the tension in the group, either by angrily talking about Charles while he was present or just outright being passive aggressive to everyone. Volts would continuously talk to me about how "I need to get out of that group" because of Charles and how "Your friends are bad for condoning this". Volts was eventually told to back the fuck up and stop causing tension and drama over something so damn stupid. I eventually got fed up and left the group. Volts stayed in there for god knows why, apparently the drama and negative attention is something they fed off of. The week after in that group was constant fighting, Volts trying to get Charles banned from the group and whatnot. By the end of the week, Volts was banned from that skype group and blocked. I blocked them as well because my girlfriend was hurt.
Had this been someone else I wouldn't have reacted this way. But they'd cry on mic, they'd play themselves to be the victim so damn much. "Charles hurt me!" and "I didn't do anything" and "You're a bad boyfriend because they're yelling at me and you're doing nothing!"
And I continued to do nothing.
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Manipulation
After the drama slightly subsided, Volts went off to create their own skype group with the people they liked in it. Of course, they were admin and they made the rules. There was to be no Charles in the group and no rape jokes and no straight relationship stuff and nothing that didn't cater to Volts' interest. After a bit since for some reason I was allowed to break the "rules", I decided to put down a rule of thumb for the group: If the people running the group had to stop and interaction, the person who began the fight got 1 strike. After 3 strikes, the person would be kicked. This rule worked amazingly well for about a year. But then the Vade fiasco hit, and it seemed that no matter what I tried to say or tell people from posting or doing, I wasn't being listened to. Now what I should have done, was sit Volts down and stop the Vade-Volts fight in its tracks. What I did do, was absolutely nothing and let Volts drag on the drama until late March of 2015.
A few members came to me, complaining of Volts' behavior, who was told to not bring up Vade in that group under any circumstances. We understood Vade is an awful human being who milked the suicide of a loved one for their personal gain. We got that. What we DIDN'T want, was Volts constantly making fake "tucute" blogs to follow and stalk Vade. This moron even let things get so bad that they added someone who claimed to be a victim of Vade's harassment into our group, who turned out to be Tankurin. And Tankurin at the time still spoke with Vade, and Volts was just too stupid to do a simple background check. All of Volts' plans to harrass Vade futher went straight out of our mouths and into Vade's ears, and when that happened, most of us decided to stop attacking Vade. We were done.
And that's where the story should have ended, right? Well shit. Our little prank got uncovered before his happened, shit happens. But Volts, of course, of course, still has to continue to talk to Vade or follow her on fake blogs. All of those blogs got debunked by Vade, by the way. It got to the point that Vade began to sort of destroy Volts' and my relationship.
Of course though, Volts would continue to cry on mic so I wouldn't be able to tune them out unless if I muted Skype. So after that, being told that I should be defending her from Vade, I began to go after people in the group who'd insist that we needed to leave Vade the fuck alone, because Vade was "hurting my precious little baby". I shouldn't have. I should have just kicked Volts out.
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Final Straw
The final straw with me was that when Volts went off to college, it gave me some alone time (finally!). I would draw for hours, just sort of reflecting on things, and it dawned on me just what had happened. I had turned on people I knew for years just because some person I fell for had a personal problem with them. Volts had changed a lot in college, and I don't know why. The otherkin thing came up more and more often. Volts eventually came to the conclusion as a supposed transman, that all transwomen were shit and needed to step aside so that transmen could be appreciated more by society. I only slightly understood this revelation, being an actual transman myself. I'm told constantly on tumblr about how I'm oppressing women by deciding to be man. I would love for these people to step aside and let me be who I want to but that's not going to make me say that transwomen are awful people. Because they aren't. They're in the same boat as me. They also began to grow more and more irritated at Christians and God, saying that God was an awful being for not stopping what happened to them and that all Christians were bigoted and hateful. It grew tiring, fast.
But being the absolute tool I am, I would pretend to agree. This would just fuel more and more "anti-SJW" behavior in them, which eventually just kinda went so politically right-wing that it looped around and became extremely left-wing, which is why this thread is here now.
Volts eventually went off on
@Spartykins for a multitude of reasons. One of them was that Sparty felt Volts needed professional help and needed to leave the house they were in. All of us except Volts thought that. On top of that, Sparty is a Christian (a very casual one), but that still angered Volts that Sparty was following a "corrupted and completely evil" religion. I, of course, was pulled into this drama by Volts, telling me to leave Sparty because he's a Christian who thinks Volts needs help. I refused to leave Sparty because he's been my friend for 3 years and counting. I trust the guy, and the way Volts was making him out was not the truth. They were trying to play Sparty off as this guy out to get Volts locked up in a mental asylum, and maybe that'd be for the best at this point. Either way, I was done. I decided to tell Volts to back off and not talk to me about the drama anymore. I'll attach logs of what ensued after that.
After 3 days of pleading them to leave me alone constantly, I broke up with them. I screamed at them about how they'd torn me away from all my friends, how everyone had left because of her. She was turning me on other people for years and I was through. They tried to keep me there by begging continuously for one more chance, to which I argued I gave them 3 entire days of chances when they kept talking to me after I told them to give me space. They chose to end the conversation with "I love you" as one last attempt to get me back. It just drove home what they'd been doing. They'd been trying to isolate me from everyone, and the reason why is still unknown to me this day. Maybe it's from what happened to them, who knows. Maybe they're just a sociopath. Maybe it's borderline. Maybe it's not a disorder at all and I literally dated an asshole for 3 years.
Volts insisted that they wanted to leave me alone and they wished me the best of luck. It was probably to make me apologize for what I had done. They also kept telling their followers "He still loves me. It was just a break, or I'm gonna break." I think I have a cap for that. If so I'll attach that as well. But I publicly said I no longer loved Volts. I was angry at them, I was repulsed at the thought of even dating them anymore, especially once as it became clear to me Volts was using me to attack others. Of course, I was a fucking idiot for stating that! It was like I awakened some Cthulhu-like creature inside of them. They began to vague post a lot about me, calling me "abusive" and "awful" and accusing me of sending death threats to them even though the thought of contacting them just outright sickened me. It's like they forgot I have friends who didn't like what they did. Even though Volts isn't popular in any fandom, no matter how many they try to pander to, I had to defend my reputation. As it is anywhere on Tumblr, it's easy to get shunned with one little lie, ESPECIALLY if you're a white straight man. It's VERY easy to chalk up a straight white male on Tumblr as an abuser because we're the reason that genocide happened, all of us of course. And their lies did work on a few people, the cycle will continue.
Luckily it seems to be that most people are taking my side on the story, that Volts is trying to knock me down because I left them and they want revenge. Anyone can see that, it's real fucking easy. But they're taking it out of control, obviously. That's why we're all here.
They've ruined their life in the process, though. They almost failed multiple courses in college, not because they struggled with the subject, but because they just outright refused to go to class. They refuse to get a starter job like in retail or something, which would be a lost cause now if this stalking case goes on their record. Hell, the only job they COULD get then would be a place that can't afford to do a background check, and that would be minimum wage-paying jobs. So I'm just sitting here, hoping that they get a felony for stalking on their record. Maybe they'll learn something. Shame it has to be the hard way.
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So there's the details of what went down. There's other, smaller events that came up during our relationship but those 3 were the main ones.
