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- 4 de Oct, 2020
I can't help but think her parents gave her shit for being a chubby little kid, or at least made comments about her "soft tummy", compared her body to her sister's, made comments about her eating, etc. Some of those fundie/conservative parents are big on emphasizing the importance of beauty/being feminine to their daughters at a young age. Girls in fundie or conservative families are often seen as livestock to potentially marry off to a Nice Christian Man. Beauty pageants are pretty big among fundies, and are popular in the US South, including Virginia. Grooming starts very young.Funny though, anyone remember the baby pics she posted awhile ago? The ones where she said she failed to thrive and you could tell even then she was sick? You know, despite it being a normal, healthy looking chubby baby? Yet here we see young Anna looking like a normal kid.![]()
There are a lot of parents out there who make tons of shitty comments to their daughters about their bodies from a very young age "because we don't want her to become too fat and ugly to get married one day". I'm talking making comments about their weight before they even enter kindergarten. This is a super common childhood experience for people with eating disorders. This doesn't justify ED behavior, but it definitely sets the perfect storm for it to develop.
Note the parents encouraged hobbies that are seen as ultra-feminine and require girls to remain small-- skating, dancing, etc. Anna probably learned to equate "small" with "good girl/ideal daughter/feminine/God's preference" at an early age. The constant idealization of small bodies came at her from home, her peers and from her coaches.
I don't think it's a coincidence that she went on her "health food journey" around the very same age where she likely started menstruating and started developing secondary sex characteristics. Girls often start menstruating once they've reached their adult height, which was likely early for Anna.
Biting my lip hard to avoid power leveling here. Parents, particularly conservative/religious ones, often have an extremely negative reaction to their daughters when they start menstruating. Once you menstruate, you're not "mommy's and daddy's little perfect baby girl", you become the Horrific Teenaged Girl who Will Become A Slut and you are treated accordingly even if you're an introverted perfectionist with a perfect report card. Intrusive and ridiculing body comments increase dramatically, mothers get more cold/rejecting/critical, fathers might suddenly stop being as affectionate, buying bras becomes a big humiliating family ordeal, your clothing is suddenly scrutinized for "being too slutty" whereas it wasn't just a few weeks before. It's hard to describe unless you've experienced it. Some girls will hide the fact they started their periods from their parents for months for this reason.
From her blog https://archive.fo/KApq2#selection-451.131-451.901
I'll hazard a guess and say she and her parents had a bad reaction when she had her first period around the age of 13. Headaches and body aches/pains are extremely common when girls start menstruating, as are stomach pains, severe gastrointestinal problems. Many girls in their teens start birth control pills and other medications specifically to counteract these kinds of symptoms. In her blog, she makes no discussion of ever seeing a gyn for symptoms that could have easily been attributed to endometriosis, PCOS, etc.. With all these "symptoms", why didn't she go to a gynecologist?I was diagnosed with "asthma" when I was 8, hypothyroidism when I was 13, had repeated muscle strains/tears and broken bones, and underwent 3 MRI's for headaches of unknown origin...doctors explored an aneurysm, brain tumor, pinched nerve, you name it...nothing. (Which was of course good, but frustrating...still no answers.) Desperate for relief, I (in my ripe old age of 13) decided to "take matters into my own hands" and Lord willing, try to figure out how to cure myself. A lifelong "health nut," I decided to go vegan in an effort to see if my headaches were being caused by a food allergy. I had been vegetarian since I was 11, so it wasn't that hard of a transition--mainly just eliminating dairy and eggs.
I also wonder how she was diagnosed with hypothyroidism at such a young age-- my guess is that her parents complained to her pediatrician that she was gaining "too much weight too quickly". Weight gain despite exercising/eating healthy is usually one of the main symptoms of hypothyroidism, but it's usually identified in adults. Kids often gain weight quickly simply because they're growing. Pediatricians normally don't test for hypothyroidism unless the symptoms are pointed out to them, usually by pushy parents.
Some of this obvious enabling on the part of her parents is due to guilt. They probably know on some level that they set the perfect shit storm in place for this to develop.
When I read her blog, it surprises me how she mentions all these childhood health problems as if she diagnosed herself. It's as if she wants to deny that her parents had any involvement in her "diagnoses" and or identifying her "symptoms".
She's developed this elaborate myth to justify her eating disorder and the negative consequences of it.