Cleaning and cooking isn't really purely a Female Only Thing because anyone who wants to be a functional human should know how to cook a meal for themselves and keep their space clean.
I think this is the key to some of what you said, and to a lot of other problems on top of that. A lot of young adults simply don't live like functional humans, there's no reason to for a lot of them, and a lot have no idea how. There are a lot of reasons for this, plenty of which are not their fault, but the end result is a lot of people who can not and do not put in the effort to maintain a proper standard of living. They maintain enough "happiness" usually via the internet, which provides easy comforts like delivery of premade food and material objects, unlimited access to escapist media, as well as easy forms of social interaction and validation that require no effort to be made in real life. The result is people who aren't spending time and energy into tackling real world problems, which require copious amounts of both, so they start channeling that into other things, like online mental illness. They don't have very much experience in genuinely interacting with other people, and don't really understand how much effort goes into what should be fairly basic parts of life, so it's easy for them to trivialize the aspects of the other gender they like, while ignoring the parts they don't. On top of that, they're able to choose to engage primarily with online communities that reinforce and validate their warped perspective, because most of them are in the same boat.
It's very easy to fetishize, for example, being a bimbo housewife, when you have never had to deep clean the entire house, or put dinner on the table every single night, or have a functional genuine and comfortable long-term relationship, and you surround yourself entirely with other young sexually frustrated men who also have no experience, and who encourage your delusions while loudly shutting out everyone who says anything you don't like. Meanwhile, a man who puts effort every day into making sure his living space is clean and presentable, who regularly has to focus on fixing and maintaining his possessions, and interacts with other people, including women, in real life in a healthy way is probably less likely to decide that a cheap dress, shitty wig, and grating falsetto are the real keys to happiness. Of course this is pretty big oversimplification, but I'd wager a whole lot more trannies fit the first situation than the second.
I hope this makes sense, it was a lot more coherent in my head, and there is a lot more on the subject I could ramble on about like how it applies to TIFs, incels, and disaffected millenials and zoomers in general but it's too long and convoluted as it is.
