I don’t think that people like Kelly who focus on “softness”, grace, and kindness really consider the impact that their actions or mistakes have on others. Unfortunately my ex shares this trait with Kelly Looking at financial disclosures in the split, I was pretty much being exploited, expected to give over all my money to joint without financial knowledge or real control.
I won’t say anything more about that, just to say that one’s errors or failings can’t and shouldn’t always be fixed or forgiven. Not being able to be an adult, financially or emotionally, isn’t cute. And if I was still stateside, I’d buy Jerry a beer. I hope it was him who kicked her out- I’ve had to find my balls too.